Thread: Can I trade him in for a new model?(long vent)

Submit a bill to him for all his cooking, cleaning and other chores you do around the house. I agree with not doing anything for him. I cannot stand when men think that what we do as mother's and wives is NOT a fulltime job. HTH do they think their clothes get cleaned, the food makes it to the table, the children are loved and cared for???? Do they think the magic faeries show up and clean while we sit on the couch eating bon-bons and watching Oprah??? Oh, and the whole not watching your own child, don't even get me started on that! Hand him the kids, take the van key and walk out the door. Tell him YOU worked all day too, and you expect a hot dinner on the table when you return.

Originally Posted by amysusi

I think it's a spat all families with SAHM's go through. We've been through it so many times, DH understands now. THough a couple weeks ago, when I was at camp for 4 days, I came home to him telling me it wasn't that hard and how much he got done with time to spare. THat's because the kids respect him, they won't tear it all up behind him. If he tells them to play in their room while he gets stuff done, they will, and they won't keep coming out to tattle and whine like they do to me.

I do get irritated with him just vegging on his day off. It's like he's just laying around in his underwear watching me work. He's home, he can watch the kids and run the office, so that's when I try to get out and do stuff, and he complains how I always "take off". Hello! Grocery shopping won't do itself, and saving money takes time!! So I say to him "Gee, it must be nice to have a day off."

I know that's right!!!! Mine seems to think the grocery shopping does itself too...as well as the laundry and anything that requires menial effort on his days off. Oh, and don't forget he still wants sex, the remote, and a back massage Yeah right!! Right after I find the cleaning fairy, the supper fairy, and the trash fairy!

HEAR HEAR---Im ready to trade up myself!!!!!! This time I want 1 that is SUPER FILTHY ROLLIN' rich

Show this to your DH: http://www.salary.com/careers/layout...53_Par358.html (scroll down to the breakdown of salaries)

What mothers are really worth:
Stay-at-home mothers wear many hats. They're the family CEO, the day care provider, accountant, chauffeur, counselor, chef, nurse, laundress, entertainer, personal stylist, and educator. Based on a 90-hour work week, Salary.com has estimated that a fair wage for the typical stay-at-home mom would be $88,276 for executing all of her daily tasks. Factor in overtime, and the appropriate salary leaps to $112,797.

"Mothers are responsible for the mental and physical well being of the family - putting a price on that isn't easy," said Lena Bottos, compensation market analyst for Salary.com. "But we looked at it as what you would have to pay other people to do the same work if the mom weren't there."

Even if these mothers were getting paid what they'd be worth on the market, Bottos added that they still wouldn't be adequately compensated. "You see that $88,000 amount and you think, 'Wow, that's such a big number.' But when you take into account that it represents a 90-hour workweek, and doesn't even begin to factor in that they are on call 24 hours a day, it's not so large. Plus, stay-at-home moms get no benefits in terms of pension or 401(k)."

I would straighten that stuff up REAL quick because he seems to think that he is the kind of the castle, offer to let him quit his job and take care of the kids while YOU work, he would be calling crying because being a mother is a 24/7 job. Start going out, the 1 y/o will not die if she crys a bit, you deserve time to yourself, no hubby, no kids. Get another vechile FAST for hubby to drive to work you need a car so you have some freedom. Girl if you dont set up stright right now he is going to keep walking all over you, this is a reason I celebrated when my divorce was final. My hubby was emotionally abuisve and used to tell me how much I didnt love and support him because I was trying to better myself by finding a good job and maybe taking some classes, when I used to go out with my friends the stuff would hit the fan about how I neglected him ((dinner and a movie, 5 hours tops)) Men are like children I do not think that they ever completely grow up.
If all else fails consolt a lawyer and hit him where it hurts, his wallet, he will have to pay child support for count em THREE kids, and alimony, then he can REALLY be supporting you guys while you find someone that is going to treat you right because no man has the right to talk to you that way, wanting you to walk two miles to get a MO for a ticket he got that is going to be late. I wonder if they are going to swear out a warrent for him? He might want to call and ask

I am with DbackFan, I have a wonderful husband and he would never complain if the house were a mess or whatever. Shoot he even went and surpised me by buying me my own laptop just so I could be online as much as I wanted. Maybe you need to sit him down and just have a nice talk and explain to him this and that, sounds like you love him, just aggravated is all, just maybe this time he will understand and be more willing to help.

You work 24/7. His day has a begining and an end. My mother rarely worked when we were kids. My dad was the breadwinner. My father retired. My mother's work has never quit.

I think I would rather leave him at home with the kids and go to work for a while and see how much he can accomplish with three little ones. I doubt if he could keep it up for more than a few weeks. A couple of days is easy. But try doing it on a full time basis.