Thread: BIG MIX UP... I hope

Jaime was taking AP English last term which is a flip-flop class to it goes all year (2 terms, each term is like a "quarter"). He failed his first quarter so this term he was put into a contract english class which is a simple easy class for people who are at risk of failing. Apperently his AP teacher called his mom at work and said he's not walkind, not graduating, and not getting a diploma since he's failing again this quarter (He said he's not doing the work because it's too hard yet doesn't bother going to tutorials.) I'm dissapointed in him for not trying, but he should still be on track for graduation because of his second english class. Grrrrrrrrrrr.... anyway his mom is sooooooo angry at him I guess she was screaming at him and called his father, emailed the teachers, etc... graduation is 2 days away and this really bites. His been crying non-stop and he's afraid of what will happen when his father gets home. (His mom was angry with him for not beind an honor grad... at least he went to high school unlike her). I keep trying to tell him it will be okay and he should still graduate but he kept snapping at me saying his mom is so angry and stuff...

Honestly I feel bad because part of me feels like it's his fault for not getting help. He failed his first quarter of AP because of his lack of doing work, which almost happened last year when we took AP english 6/7 together. The teachers offer all kinds of tutorial, but he doesn't bother to go (not only that, but his mom sometimes doesn't let him go because he has to watch his brothers...). His mom also told him he can't go to work tonight and made him call in sick. I have a bad feeling he's going to get fired soon because he has been having people cover his shifts due to certain things (senior things and family things) and he's only been working for about 3-4 weeks. He only works 20 hours as it is, and lately it's been less due to "cut-backs" so they tell him (yet the store is still hiring for the position he is in).

I dunno, I feel so horrible for him, but it's his fault you know... I kept trying to make sure he was caught up and doing his work like he asked me to until the day he snapped at me and said I'm always on his case and I was acting like his mother. So I backed off, and now he's on the peak of being stuck in high school for another year!

((((((((((Suzie))))))))))

Yep, gotta agree.... worry about YOU....

seems like you have been trying to help and he doesnt listen so dont stress yourself over it hun. he will come around eventually or he will repeat his senior year. Either way, its HIS fault, NOT yours. Chin up hun and hey ...



YOU'RE GRADUATING SOON GIRL.... WOO HOO to YOU

I have to agree with the others. You need to worry about yourself. He put himself into this position, he is going to have to deal with it. Keep focused on your graduation!!!!!!

My son failed 8th grade last year. He was tore up becuase he thought I could "fix" it and make themlet him graduate. Didnt happen. He didnt do the work, he didnt get to graduate from 8th grade. I told him that there are consequences and Momma wont always be there to "fix" things. I DID let him change schools because I saw no need of him going back to a school that waited till the day of graduation to tell me he was definately failing after I called every single day for a month asking.

What my ramblings mean(or what I hope they mean)is that while you worry(and its only natural to worry about people you love), they have to stand on their own two feet and take responsibility for their own actions. Anthony passed 8th grade this year with a B average. He found out he had to do the work, he couldnt coast through and he did it. I know you worry about him, but dont make yourself sick. Jamie got himself into this, he will have to be the one to get himself out.

When I was in 11th and 12th grade I took a lot of AP classes and they were not blow offs! They were very hard, precollege courses. Didn't Jaime know this? Obviously the teachers knew he was smart enough to get into them, and that means he is smart enough to pass them!

Many seniors goof off 12th grade and then wonder why they have problems last minute. I am sorry for your b/friend but he must have known months ago (when he was skipping classes) he'd have to pay the piper.

I'm afraid "just passing" is not enough in the world anymore...school is supposed to teach you responsibilty for a job or college, especially high school.

Maybe this is a harsh lesson for everyone involved. Sometime there is no quick fix to problems. You have to work for your goals...I am not trying to sound like an old fuddy duddy..maybe he can make it up somehow??? Good luck to all....(PS I have a nephew in 11th who just failed 3 subjects....)

Suzie...I'm with everyone else on this one... There is no mix-up. You b/f didn't do the work so he doesn't deserve to graduate with everyone else.

I also took A/P classes in high school (in the dark ages) and they were classes which gave your college credit. They were hard and they were lots of work! He wouldn't have been even allowed in an A/P class if he wasn't capable of doing the work.

So...instead...he's put in a much easier class and still doesn't do the work! He has no one to blame but himself! It is a very hard lesson...but it's a lesson nonetheless.

You...on the other hand...have done the work and you have worked hard! CONGRATULATIONS! Good luck in your future endeavors!

suziebee20~all i read was your post, not the replies. sorry, y'all. when it comes to boys and men, always remember this. "A hard head makes a soft behind. A man never want to hear nothing right from a woman, until his but gets into a sling (trouble), and then he wants to hear what you have to say to get his but out of that sling (trouble)". Congratulations on your graduation, you have done a great job. Keep up the good work.!!!!!!

I have to agree with everyone else. He has to do the work and he knows what his responsibilities are. He made his choices and he isn't going to graduate because of them. He could have gone to tutorials if he wanted. He could have asked for help. He could have done alot of things but as it appears right now, he failed and will probably end up in summer school if they offer it. And he won't have a job because no one is going to keep someone who doesn't show up for work.

It was a mix up. Turns out Mr. Johnson, his AP teacher wasn't aware he had another english class. So because he is passing his other english class it meets his requirement. Everythings fine and he's on track for graduation. Today was our last day. Tomorrow is the big day!