Who in the bleep does he think he is????

**moe265** · 10-23-2003, 08:01 PM

I am boiling mad!!!!!! I just got an email from a friend saying that DD sperm donor says that he has been trying to call and just gets the answering machine and what does DD want for Christmas cause he will buy her whatever she wants. UGH!!!!!!! He hasn't called here since April and I have caller ID so I would know if the number showed up or not. He gave her his number to give to me like I am really gonna call him. Second he has not seen her since last November nor has he talked to her since then. When he did call he spoke to me only and never even said that he wanted to talk to her! Child support is a nice surprise when it comes and now he is gonna buy her whatever she wants! What a laugh. He had not seen her in 5 years, see's her twice last November, bows out again and now is trying to come back! NO WAY!!!!!!! She turns 12 in Jan. and back to court we go. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

Thanks... just needing to blow some steam.......

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**laughsalot** · 10-23-2003, 08:56 PM

I am so sorry that you are going through this. I know it is difficult. Hugs to ya!

***Willow*** · 10-24-2003, 07:00 AM

I'm sorry.

I'm in a similar situation with my daughters father. I broke up with him while I was pregnant with her. He was drinking a lot and he kept finding excuses why he couldn't work and I did not want to bring a baby into that environment so I ended up staying with my brother until I had her and then I got my own place. At 3 months old she was hopsitalized for a few days with bronchitis. He found out about it and came to the hopsital one night after he had been out drinking. He saw her one other time after that and that was it. He tried seeing her when she was 2 years old but he sent his girlfriend over to do his dirty work. I heard nothing from him for about six years then I get a call from him asking if he could come and see her because he was supposedly moving out of state. I told him no he couldn't. I felt it was better that he didn't see her at all rather then once every few years at his convenience. It would of just confused my daughter. She's almost 16 now and says she would like to meet him just to see what he looks like and what he's like. I don't even know where he is because he owes thousand of dollars in back child support and even the IRS can't locate him.

**schsa** · 10-24-2003, 08:44 AM

Real simple. Give him a minor suggestion. After all, he is not going to come through with it. Then ignore it. Don't mention it to your daughter because you know he isn't going to come through with anything. That way, if he does, it will be an enormous surprise and if he doesn't you don't have to worry about your daughter's disappointment.

What a waste.

**okie** · 10-24-2003, 09:37 AM

As a child i had a dead beat dad.Now that i am all grown up,he is still a dead beat.My mother isn't much better.Actually,i would have been better off if she hadn't been in my life.That may seem bad but it is the truth.The only reason i allow her to stay in my life is because my son has gotten to know her,though i think he doesn't too much care for her because she is never around and he hardly knows her.I feel for all the children because it isn't the other parent who is getting hurt but the child.As a child, i could have cared less about child support and gifts.All i really wanted was two parents who showed me love and attention.Neither one of my parents did this.Luckily,i had grandparents who loved me.So to all the dead beat parents out there,if you want any kind of relationship with your child get your butts over to your kids and show them and tell them you love them.

Just wanted to add that i think both parents should have a financial responsibilty to their children.I don't know what i would do if my husband just one day up and left us without helping take care of our son but i hope if that day ever comes i would be wise enough to let him see his son even if he didn't pay child support.

Also wanted to add that i am not condemning anybody.We each have a different situation and i realize that there is parents out there who neither spend time with their kids or help the other parent out.

Okay,i'm off my soap box now.This is a really emotional subject with me as i have gone through this with my own parents.

***Willow*** · 10-24-2003, 09:52 AM

(((((okie))))) In my situation my daughters father isn't responsible enough to take care of a dog nevermind a child. That's why I left him when I was pregnant. I was only 16 years old when I moved in with him. I was 18 when I got pregnant with her and she was born exactly three weeks after I turned 19. I would not of been able to trust him to take my daughter anywhere and I did not want a drunking fool in my home. I wasn't just keeping him away because of non payment of child support. I did it to protect my daughter.

**okie** · 10-24-2003, 10:18 AM

I'm sorry,i was just talking in general not really about your situation.I agree, i would have probably done the same as you did.That would definetly not be a good enviroment for a child.

***Willow*** · 10-24-2003, 12:11 PM

Oh don't be sorry.

I hope I didn't sound rude. I just thought I better clarify the situation in case anyone thought I didn't let my daughters father see her because he didn't pay child support.

**moe265** · 10-24-2003, 04:34 PM

I guess what really makes me mad is that he seems to think it's ok to just drop in when it's convienient. He thinks he can buy her with a pretty bauble. She told me all she wants from him is to be left alone. She hasn't gotten a Christmas or birthday present or phone call on either occasion from him for the past 6 years, don't know why it should change now. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

**okie** · 10-24-2003, 07:51 PM

Originally posted by Patchouli
Oh don't be sorry. I hope I didn't sound rude. I just thought I better clarify the situation in case anyone thought I didn't let my daughters father see her because he didn't pay child support.

No,you weren't rude at all.I didn't think that at all about you.I was just talking in general.Bad fathers is a touchy subject with me.Don't even get me started on mine,i could go on for hours.

**AngelGrim** · 10-25-2003, 03:37 PM

My father never paid a dime and I only saw him 3 times before I was 17 then he made unfatherly moves on me, some men are just scum!!!!!!!!!!They should neuter all men that purposely don't treat their children right and the mothers that don't treat them right the same way. Sorry just venting on your vent. I will bow out now......
(sneaking back into her corner)

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