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No it isn't any of my business. That is why I will not ask her. She is embarrassed about it but she has said more to me than to anyone else.
She left it open for me to ask but I didn't when the opportunity was there. As for as being nosy, I don't think there is anyone alive who hasn't wondered about something that was none of their business.
I do know she got the doll for her great granddaughter she wanted because I bought it and wouldn't let her pay me for it. This is the best friend I've ever had in my entire life. We've been friends for thirty plus years.
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12-24-2010 05:10 PM
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You are very sweet for wanting to help. The gift cards for food is a great idea. I would take her food if it was me. My friends that have been friends that long are like family, so I would just take food in for lunch, make both of you a plate and put everything extra away for her in her cupboards and fridge.
I can't even imagine trying to eat on 16 a month!
I also can't imagine being friends that long and not being able to talk about everything.
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Here is an easy way to get her to allow you to help. Act insulted. How dare you not allow me the pleasure in helping my best friend for 30+. It pains me when I know you need and you refuse to let me help you. Ask her how she could treat you like that. Years ago when I had a few extra dollars and my friend of 45 years was really struggling she would not let me help. I used reason and common sense. Then I got all indignent and so as not to offend me, she took my help. Now she is helping me by lunches and some extras that I cannot afford.
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I have an elder neighbor lady here I help out...When the stores have a B1G1 --I give her the extras plus I add in things I know she likes or will use...She has a car also..and I get my hubby to come over and change the oil when needed at no costs to her...
That was very nice of you to buy the gift for her grandchild.
Let my haters be my motivators!
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Thanks everyone. There have been some beautiful suggestions. I think I am going to ask her right out and see where we get. I'm also going to act indignant (I feel that way) that she won't let me help. Maybe she will. I think I will get her an angel food box each month. Thanks all.
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If it were me, I'd just quietly help out without pressing her for details. It's really nice of you to care so much about her, but some people just can't swallow their pride (maybe she's like that).
I truly hope that you can find some way to help her out ... there are a lot of excellent suggestions in this thread.
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Originally Posted by
buglebe
No it isn't any of my business. That is why I will not ask her. She is embarrassed about it but she has said more to me than to anyone else.
She left it open for me to ask but I didn't when the opportunity was there. As for as being nosy, I don't think there is anyone alive who hasn't wondered about something that was none of their business.
I do know she got the doll for her great granddaughter she wanted because I bought it and wouldn't let her pay me for it. This is the best friend I've ever had in my entire life. We've been friends for thirty plus years.
Of course I've wondered about other people's business, but I try to mind my own. I guess I responded the way I did to your OP was because it sounded like you were more interested in finding out her business than it asking for ways to help her. You are a dear friend for wanting to help her...but don't need to know about her finances to do that.
I do like the suggestion to be 'indignant'...that's a great one! I also think buying a treasure box for her is good as well. We buy one for my son and DIL every month.
Never argue with an idiot. It will bring you down to his level and he’ll win because of experience.
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