Thread: What would you do.......

Okay its NO secret I don't have kids. I have two Nephews. And one (Dakota) just turned 16 in March. Okay so here is the story. The lived in a town and went to school where I did as a teenager (and my brother) for a couple of years.
They had lived in Perry before that. They moved to where they could go to my school and The boys REALLY loved it there. Its a smaller school etc.
Anyway my brother said they ran into problems with the house they were buying because they were paying the mortagage and the guy had told them he would sign over the house when it was paid off. HE lied. We told him to get that in writing. But thats another story for a different day. lol
So last fall Dakota kept saying Aunt Lori I don't want to go back to Perry. I didn't understand why he was so adamant about it. I knew they really liked where they were. Okay fast forward to Christmas Dakota was not himself. He was withdrawn. He didn't come want his hugs from me or pester me. Even at that age he always did that. We have a bond.
So then a couple weeks ago my brother calls and says Kota ran away and wants to know if My dh has seen him in the town he works. We did some calling and find out where he staying. He gets brought home by the police the next day because my brother had put out and Amber Alert on him.
So then during the week (it was a busy one) he borrows a car from a girl and it supposed to bring it back after school. He doesn't get back on time. The girls mother calls the police. It turns out the girl took the car from her mom WITHOUT permission in the first place. The come to find out Dakota had been to a party and was drinking. The party got raided and the guy had drugs in HIS house. So I guess Kota got busted by association.
But here is what is making us all soooo Mad at my brother. You can tell Kota needs counseling!! He has had a VERY, VERY troubled childhood. We think when he was living with his mom (he was little, can't recall age when he finally got taken away from her) he was molested. Plus she would go into the basement and do drugs and leave the boys to fend for themselves for litterally hours.
Plus my own brother has not given them the best life. He has moved them from house to house, town to town. Woman to Woman when they were younger.
I finally got to thinking It might very well be the guy who is my brothers ex BIL that could be molesting kota or COULD have at some point. And that is who they moved back into with in Perry.
Because My dh and I have heard Rumors about him. I don't know his REAL last name. When he married my SiL sister he took her last name! Wierd right?
So here is my problem: My brother just wants to throw my nephew under the bus!! I believe in tough love. NO doubt. But I think he is DESPEATE need of counseling. ANd they are on title 19 and can get it for free. My brother keeps saying his court dates will be soon so its out of my hands. I say you can fight those charges and if he's in couseling it will look sooo much better!
I think Kota is doing alot of this for attention. I just wish I would have listened when he kept telling me he didn't want to move. I knew in my gut there was something going on.
But I don't know what to do know??
Because Legally there isn't much I can do.