Looking for opinions (funeral-related)

**chanbe** · 04-08-2005, 07:49 AM

My uncle passed away yesterday and the funeral is tomorrow.I have not even seen this uncle since I was very little.I don't remember him and really know nothing about him.This was my mother's brother, and my father is working out of town and can't be home to go to the funeral with my mother.My mother called me today to tell me the time of services,but says "You don't have to go,since you didn't know him."I'm feeling like I should go to be supportive, but on the other hand it would kind of be like going to a stranger's funeral.I don't remember what he looked like when I was young,and he was 70 years old when he passed.Has anyone else ever been in this situation?Just wondering what every one's opinion is on this.TIA

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**Victorious** · 04-08-2005, 07:55 AM

I would go to support your mother. I'm sure it will make your mom feel good that your there with her since your father can't.

**Eyore** · 04-08-2005, 08:07 AM

Are you and your mom in the same town or least a driveable distance. I mean not taking hours to get there. If you and her are in the same town or close, maybe go to be with your mom and support her. If it is going to be a long distance drive then maybe you don't want to go and maybe just send some flowers instead.

**catssass** · 04-08-2005, 08:19 AM

I would go with your Mom to support her, too. Also, we take the time at a funeral( or wedding) to see all of our relatives since we all are in different areas and are busy with with our own lives, we use this opportunity to visit and see each other

***buttrfli*** · 04-08-2005, 08:20 AM

I agree that if you can, go so you can support your mom. It will make things eaiser on her knowing that she has someone there with her.

**schsa** · 04-08-2005, 08:42 AM

You don't go for your uncle but for your mother. She hasn't said so but I am sure she would appreciate you being there for her.

**queenangie** · 04-08-2005, 08:52 AM

Originally Posted by schsa

You don't go for your uncle but for your mother. She hasn't said so but I am sure she would appreciate you being there for her.

I agree. You aren't doing this for your Uncle.
You are going to support your own Mother.

Some things in life, you do to help others.

Just because it is the 'right' thing to do.
(My own Mother always said this would
build character.)

Nobody that I know enjoys going to funerals,
but sounds like your Mother could use that
extra support right now.

Let us know your decision.

**Kyla Kym** · 04-08-2005, 11:33 AM

What I would do is ask your mom if she would like for you to be there with her, because you will gladly go if she needs you there for support.

If she thinks you don't mind going, then she is more likely to tell you her true feelings about if she wants/needs you to really go with her.

**chanbe** · 04-08-2005, 12:00 PM

I have decided to go to the funeral.My mom is not the type to tell me she'd like me to go.But when I think about it,if she didn't want me to go,she wouldn't have called me to let me know the time of the service.She rarely calls me just to "talk".(usually makes up a reason to call if she does just want to talk).Thanks for all the advice.My mom had 9 siblings,so there will be alot of family there that I haven't seen for years.

**MamaFairal** · 04-08-2005, 12:46 PM

sorry for your loss and although funerals are a sad occasion....you'll see lots of people you havent in awhile also

((Prayers & Strength))

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