Thread: Just got in my mail...

...an interesting (if not a bit rude) wedding announcement.

In a nutshell it says "we're getting married and this is where we're registered".
No date, no time, no place. Guess I'm not invited, but they want a gift.

#1 - I don't know either of the couple (I think I might know who the mother of the groom is but I never met her)

#2 - You want a stranger to get you something from Dillards?

I don't know, it just rubs me as greedy sending an announcement to someone you don't know and wanting them to drop a load at Dillards.

All I can say is Good Luck.

Well thats.... different.

My cousin (who I do know lol) sent me a gift registration "notice" for her wedding.. that I was never invited to We aren't that close or else I would have made mention of it, but instead I just toss it and went on about my day lol

I realize that gift registration can be useful and there are a lot of people who use it, but I don't think there will ever come a time in my life that I would want to tell someone "this is whats happening and here a list of stuff I want" lol Its just strange to me. I know that some gift givers love it because it allows them to get the person/people in question something they want instead of something they will just return and it keeps the gift-receivers from getting 20 toaster ovens... maybe its just me, but in a strange way it still seems like you are asking for gifts and I was raised that, thats a no-no.

I would send them a card...stating the following: "I'm sorry...I haven't a clue who you are. I also don't know why you would be soliciting gifts from a stranger without giving me the courtesy of at least inviting me to the wedding. However, please know that my good wishes go to you, even if your wedding announcement was rather tacky and in poor taste."

But then...that's me. (I hate when people solicit gifts in this way. I don't mind finding out where people are registered because that helps me. But it is just plain tacky to ask for gifts and not at least invite someone to the wedding. And, if you eloped...then you lose out on gifts unless you have a follow-up reception to which you can then invite people to celebrate with you.)

Originally Posted by amysusi

...an interesting (if not a bit rude) wedding announcement.

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That's an understatement. I'd say no invitation...no gift.

Most strange to me. I do understand registering and letting family or very close friends know. It's usually bridal registry for china, silver, crystal, where you can purchase one item or more in their chosen patterns. Some now register at Home Depot type places for those that already have their own place and don't need dishes, linens, toasters, etc. But the ones that say they registered at a travel agent for a fabulous honeymoon cruise or a trip to Paris or whatever, I wouldn't even send them a card.

Originally Posted by amysusi

...an interesting (if not a bit rude) wedding announcement.

In a nutshell it says "we're getting married and this is where we're registered".
No date, no time, no place. Guess I'm not invited, but they want a gift.

#1 - I don't know either of the couple (I think I might know who the mother of the groom is but I never met her)

#2 - You want a stranger to get you something from Dillards?

I don't know, it just rubs me as greedy sending an announcement to someone you don't know and wanting them to drop a load at Dillards.

All I can say is Good Luck.

I would go to www.hallmark.com and send them a FREE virtual card congratulating them on their upcoming wedding lol see how they like it

I got something similar from my third(?) cousin a few months ago. It was "hi, we're getting married in vegas" and then a few days later I got an invite to a bridal shower which said where she was registered. I didn't know the girl, my cousin was the groom. Anyway - that was weird!

I understand that some people just want to have a small ceremony, family only. I'm cool with that. I've been to receptions for those types of weddings. But this one said there will be no reception. DH saw the announcement and he has no idea who they are either. I just told him I think the groom's mother is this person. You should see this announcement ~ pictures of the couple all over it.

Originally Posted by Tina

I'd print out some pointers from an wedding etiquette website, and mail it to the return addy on the envie the announcement came in.

LOL - I was thinking the same thing !