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June Anniversary People
I know we have a lot of them on here. I figured out what to get my hubby. I got a really nice plaque that says. "Happiness is being married to your best friend". And I got a card that says, "When I'm with you. I'm in paradise".
Now for the kicker--got both of them at garage sales. LOL The plaque cost $1.00 and the card 10 cents. I know, I'm so romantic but hey these look realy expensive and I'm not spending much money which hubbies love.
Now he just needs to take me for an expensive night out and it will be perfect. LOL 
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05-30-2003 10:10 AM
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sounds like you got a great deal! im sure he'll love it!
my anniversary is today.
hubby had all kinds of surprises planned and reservations for tonight but i finally got him to cancel everything yesterday! 
Hate is easy. Loves takes courage.
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Did you ever find out what he had planned? You may be sorry. If a limo was involved, double sorry.
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i know what he had planned. it was dinner and a hotel. and no im not sorry. he knows i asked him over a month ago not to do anything like this. i am having PMS and a fibro flare up and the restaurant he picked sends me into a full blown anxiety attack with the atmosphere there. even if I know we are going and can prepare myself. friday night and going unprepared? no way.
most people say "oh no you don't have to do anything" for things like this and only halfway mean it. then are thrilled when someone plans a surprise for them anyway and gets giddy with anticipation if they catch wind of it. I do not. Surprises instill great dread, fear, and distress very deeply for me, no matter who plans them or i know their motives are good. I just cannot take it due to some deep conditioned responses from childhood. It is NOT a pleasant experience for me to know a surprise is coming.
when i say "please don't plan a surprise or make a big deal of the occasion," i mean it, every word.
i am an atypical woman
I do not like surprises
I do not like flowers, jewelry, or romantic whims, and he knows it. I have more fun and am more secure in planning together, and can better mentally prepare myself and am worry-free that way and can actually enjoy the planned event.
I am glad he thought of me and wanted to do something nice for us......but listening to what i want and respecting my wishes are a much nicer thing to do for me.
and a limo......id strangle him for sure.
the timing is very bad for a night out tonight. we're compromising to plan it together for another weekend.
Last edited by captorquewrench; 05-30-2003 at 10:50 AM.
Hate is easy. Loves takes courage.
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I hope next weekend is better for you.
I know exactly what you are talking about. I don't like surprises either. One time my hubby threw me into the car and wanted to show me and his son the tennis court he friend's new house had. We just drove by and looked and said yeah, they have a tennis court. It was even dark. Man was I livid. I didn't even have my shoes on, just slippers. Felt half dressed. I would have yelled at him but my SS was there and didn't want to make a fuss in front of him but after we dropped SS off boy did I get hubby when we got home. I said, "DON'T YOU EVER DO THAT TO ME AGAIN, I HATE THAT".
Now my sister's hubby surpised her on her birthday by planning a trip to AZ to see our brother. Everyone knew but her. She got up and he told her to get ready and pack a suitcase. They went to the airport and flew to AZ. They had a surprise party for her at a club where she got up and sang with the main guy.
That's ok for her but not for me. I wish I was that loose but I'm just not. I am getting better though. Sometimes I think my hubby has to know more than I do about what we are doing before we go out. He'll say, you never told me we were going to do this. That's because I'm not psyhic and I don't know what we will come across when we go out, so how can I tell you in advance? Let's just do it and relax with it. It's a wonder people can live together. LOL
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LOL. a little surprise drive on a whim doesnt bother me. its putting me in a loud crowded palce with no windows or doors in sight as a surprise kind of thing that bothers me. i mean, really, is that how you do someone with anxiety issues? especially after i specifically and repeatedly requested to not plan anything liek that.
a small gift, a GC, doing me a favor, rubbing my back, a book, letting me pick what to watch, a drive around the block, SMALL surprises that dont involve anything that i have to majorly prepare my brian for are OK.
now the surprise trip MIGHT be ok. but instead of telling me to pack a suitcase, maybe putting the tix in a card for me.....i have time to prepare myself for the ariport and flight! you see what im getting at?
Hate is easy. Loves takes courage.
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I know exactly, but I wouldn't enjoy an airplane trip. I've never flown and I don't wanna. Wouldn't you know I'd be married to a guy who wants to see the world?
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