Need lots of good vibes and prayers...

**Gumball1960** · 11-09-2002, 08:34 PM

This is so hard for me, telling others about my family life. I have lived with my parents all my life until my father was killed in a car accident in 1995. I stayed with my mother because she didn't drive and was my only other family that gave a d@mn about me. Relatives on both my father's & mother's side never bothered with us much unless they wanted something.

When we went up to Canada in August it was to see my mother's brothers & one of her sisters that she hadn't seen in years. One of her brothers she hadn't seen in 45 years. When we finally saw him he more or less ignored us after we had to take a 12 1/2 bus ride up to where he was!
Anyway, with all that plane & bus travel my mother developed a blood clot in her lung - a pulmonary embolism. She was taken to the hospital Tuesday morning by ambulance and now has pneumonia and was sedated and put on a ventilator today. Nobody called me to tell me they were doing that, I found out that when I called to check on her condition this afternoon when the nurse told me!

I am under so much stress now and I just realized today that when bills start coming in, my name isn't on anything so I have no way to pay anything. I can't talk to her Dr. until at least Monday when he comes back from his weekend off. The way they are talking I doubt she'll be back home for Thanksgiving and the way they are acting she might not come back home at all.

How do I explain this to my 3 yr. old little girl that her Nana might not be coming home? I can't even explain it to me.

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**juliegirl78** · 11-09-2002, 08:49 PM

{{{{Gumball and mother}}}}

**cpbaby** · 11-09-2002, 08:50 PM

{{{{{gumball}}}}}

Im sorry. I dont have any advice for you but Im sure others will have lots of good advice.

If shes coherent, can you not get Power of Attorney so you can pay her bills for her?

odyssey · 11-09-2002, 09:07 PM

oh gumball, you need hugs,

I am so sorry for the pain your mom is going through.
And you and your daughter.
The best thing you can do is keep her comfortable and let your daughter know nana is sick but not to scare her, she will need to know.

Praying the best for your mother.

**Gumball1960** · 11-09-2002, 09:10 PM

She's unconcious and sedated so she won't fight the vent. Even before they did that her heart rate was going way too fast (about 160 to 180 beats per minute) so with the poor circulation she wasn't getting enough oxygen to her brain to be able to think clearly. I was at the hosp. last night and she knew my daughter but thought I was one of her sisters for a while.

Last night the nurse mentioned that they might have to do a cardiovert on her to electrically shock her heart into a slower beat. Her BP was way down yesterday but since she's been on the vent (according to the nurse) has supposedly improved some. My mother will be 79 in Dec. and at this point I don't know if she'll be home for it or not. I'm trying to hold it together for my daughter but I've run out of things to tell a 3 yr. old that only wants her Nana back.

She knows that Nana is sick but I'm not sure how much she actually understands about everything. She repeats that "Nana is very very sick" like she heard the nurse say but right after that she says "I want Nana."

I'm on Medicaid and TANF assistance every month so I can't afford a babysitter so whenever I go to the hosp. she goes with me. Now I have to talk to Social Services on Monday to see whether they might be able to help me find a good daycare for my daughter. I've been informed that I have to attend a "meeting" with my IMPACT caseworker on the 19th and that I can't miss it. They can cut off my TANF or Medicaid if I don't show up. I tried to call them and explain what's going on here but the caseworker told me that that wasn't her problem.

**Jcowgirl77** · 11-09-2002, 09:20 PM

IAM VERY SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT YOUR MOTHER, I AM SURE THAT IS ALOT OF STRESS
I WOULDNT EVEN KNOW WHERE TO START TELLING YOUR DAUGHTER ABOUT HER NANA
YOU ARE IN MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS....
((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))

**Tasha405** · 11-09-2002, 10:11 PM

You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. {{{hugs}}}

**Wimzik** · 11-09-2002, 10:36 PM

{{{GUmball))) I'm so sorry you are going through so much right now, I don't have much advice, just try to take it one day at a time. {{{{{Gumballandfamily}}}}}}

**jadegentle** · 11-09-2002, 11:24 PM

(((((Gumball))))) sending prayers your way.

**angelinwaiting** · 11-10-2002, 09:46 AM

Sending prayers your way....{{{{{{{{Hugz for you and Mom and your daughter}}}}}}}}

**tina z** · 11-10-2002, 08:08 PM

Wish you lived on my side of the state, I would spoil your little one rotten! ((((((((((((Gummy))))))))) keeping you in my prayers!

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