Do you believe people know when they are going to die?
My oldest sister said she went to see my dad a few weeks before he died and he told her he wouldn't be around much longer. He told her he regretted all the bad things he'd done to his kids. She asked him why didn't he call and talk to each one, but he said after all he'd done they wouldn't believe him. I wish he had called me and tried to make right something he did to cause my sister to hate me and my husband. Even if he didn't make it right with her it would have meant a lot if he had at least said he was sorry. But I wish he had called her and admitted what he did. Now there's no hope for me and her being close again. After what happened at the funeral I don't see any hope at all for us. Don't get me wrong I cared about my dad but inside I was hoping one day he would make right what he did. He didn't and now there's no hope anymore of things getting better between us. And he left my other family members believing all the stuff he said. I'm sorry for posting this but its really bothering me and I needed to talk to someone about it. I can't talk to my family because they believed what he said and blame me and my husband for whats happened in our family. Anyway again I'm sorry for posting personal stuff but its really bothering me.
07-31-2008 09:15 PM
yes, I think some people do know when they are going to die, my grandmother who lived with us for five years had my mom fix her room a certain way and she wanted a family member to sing and play the guitar for her the day before she died, she was on oxygen, this was in the 70's so the oxygen tanks were big back then, my mom was trying to fix her room the way she wanted it and put her oxygen next to her bed, she told her not to worry about it she wasnt going to ever need it again anyway, the next morning my mom went to wake her up to give her medication and she had died in her sleep in the night. my father-in-law also knew he was going to die, he told his youngest daughter he would never see her unborn child before he passed and sure enough he died before her daughter was born.
Don't ever be sorry for posting personal stuff that is hurting you. We all do it and the reason being, you need someone to talk to and it is much easier when it is someone unknown and even though we are unknown we do care about you. It is like your part of a big family on here, a family who hurts when you do, a family who sends out heartfelt prayers when someone is ill or has a tragedy in their lives. I do believe that some people know when they are going to pass. When my dad was very ill, my mom, DH and I were at his bedside. Mom had not slept in 2 nights, I went out into the waiting room and had a sandwich and then layed back in the chair. Mom had fallen asleep, she had been asleep no longer than half an hour and dad died. I think that he waited for mom to fall asleep.
You sound like you might need a big hug, I am sending you one.
Never Take Life Too Serious NONE of Us Are Getting Out Alive !!
Never feel bad posting on here this group of people are the greatest and always under stand so sorry hun hugs and prayers
gmyers, I am sending you a hug too (((hug)))
I also believe that some people know. My Grandmother, who was my life, had cancer and she knew. One morning while she was in the hospital, she asked all of us to come. We piled into the room and one by one, she told each and every one of us how special we were to her and little tidbits she remembered about the day each of us were born or things we did when we were little. She said that when she made it to heaven, she would ask God to hold a special place for each of us so that we could all be together again one day.
As she finished speaking she said, "well, I think that is about all that I need to do, I love you all." Within 10 minutes, she was gone. She had a beautiful smile on her face and she was surrounded by all the people in her life that loved her and that she loved. Lord, now I am crying! Sorry....
Anyway, try not to beat yourself up too much about what your Dad did gmyers. You have no need to feel guilty for something you didn't do. If your Sister chooses to believe it, that is her problem, not yours. (((hugs)))
I do believe some ppl do. I believe my dad knew the day he died. He should have said many things to us kids but didn't but in my heart I knew he was sorry and I have let it go as has my oldest brother, my older brother on the other hand has not and has a lot of anger to this day. I guess before he died I was about to forgive and that has given me peace. I hope one day you will feel the same about yours.
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I do also believe some know when they are going to die. My dad knew he was going to die and he kept telling me not to blame God. I didnt ever blame anyone, just knew that i didnt want him suffering on this earth if he couldnt be in great health.
I don't know when I am goingo to die, but I know HOW my kids are going to die and it freaks me out. When Caitlyn passes away, it is going to have something to do with water. She is going to die before me. Davis is going to die of something in his chest (I would say a his heart) when he is much older. I won't be alive when he dies.
I know I sound like a complete loon and i can't explain how I know these things, just that I DO know them.
gmyers. I'm sorry your hurting right now. I remember reading some of the stuff he did to you guys (I think, did he lie to your sister about you and then say he didn't say it or something like that?). I would say that if these people aren't willing to listen to your side or at least try to believe you..then they should be written off. You are far too awesome to have black seeds in your pot. (((hugs)))
Caitlyn 9 and Davis 6
Yes, I do. My mother the last year she was with us told me many things that she wanted done after she passed away. My mother NEVER discussed dying any other time in mine or my brother's life.....except for that last year.
Name for a new country song: If I'd Shot You Sooner, I'd Be Out of Jail by Now.
Yes, I do. My mom knew she was going to die. My dad asked her if he should call us kids and she said yes. Once we all got there and were gatherd around her bed she was gone within minutes. I am sorry your dad never got to make things right for you. You are going to have to forgive him and let it ago. It is sad it has ruined your relationship with your sister. If she firmly believes his lie I don't think that there is anything you can do to change her mind. I guess really the only thing you can do and we can do is pray that God would reveal the truth to her in some way. Hugs for you because I know that you are hurting.