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    Seriously?!

    My mom just passed away a week ago. Her funeral was 3 days ago. My youngest sister just called me and asked me when we wanted to start going through Mom's things to get rid of them. She was even asking this between the time Mom died and her funeral! Maybe it's just me, but WHAT'S THE RUSH?!?! The stuff has been in the house for over 49 years, what difference is a few weeks or months going to make? I do want to be involved, but IMO, it is way too soon to be doing this. My dad hasn't mentioned anything about getting rid of stuff, except the hospital bed that is in the living room. My sisters will do it themselves if I'm not there and I do want to be involved, but why so soon? Sorry, just had to vent and get it off my chest.
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    Sorry to hear of your mothers passing. But in my opinion, cleaning out your mothers things should be up to your dad. He should be the one to decide when it gets done.

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    Sorry about you loosing your Mom. Technically your sisters can't do anything with your Mom's stuff unless they have your Dad's permission. When my Grandmother passed 2 years ago my Aunt and 2 Uncles went in and cleaned out her house. Since she lived alone and in Alabama they had to get my Mom to sign off that what they did was Ok with her or they would have had to put everything back until it had been either 3 or 6 months from the date she passed away (can't remember which is 3 months and which is 6 months between Florida & Alabama).

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    People grieve n different ways. That being said ... it is your dad's choice when - where - and what - of the dispotion of your mom's things . My dad died in 2000 ... my mom has recently gotten rid of his suits; his books; his garden and work working tools. It has been a gradual process and we just try to be supportive.

    I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your mother, and that other family members are not being respectful of your feelings in this matter. s:
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    It is called greed to be the first one there to get the cream of the pick. It is up to your Dad not sisters but they might pressure him. Been threw this while we were buying the casket for my Uncle cousins were going threw his stuff. My Mom sent me a joke but it really hits it that a redneck (no disrespect to rednecks, some are friends) but that a redneck would show up for services with a U-Haul.
    So sorry about your lost. Maybe talk to your Dad and let him know you want to be there will help.
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