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    Just need to vent

    Son's ADD, detentions, uncooperative teachers, medication, his appetite and on and on.

    On top of that, other son's graduation is coming up and I'm worried about college, paying for it (other than this year he hasn't had the grades for any scholarships), finding a cheap, reliable car for him, getting in his driving hours to get his license, his being "thisclose" to getting his Eagle award in Boy Scouts but he just gave up. He'll be 18 in June then it's too late to finish up the award.

    Then we're trying to make some upgrades to our house to make it presentable for his graduation party. Just hoping we can get it done in time. I want to lose weight, but I have no willpower whatsoever. I tell myself I'm going to eat healthy but I seriously think I'm addicted to food. I want to lose the weight, but have no motivation to exercise.

    Just took a hot shower to try and release some of my built up stress, but I don't think it helped any. If anything, it gave me more time to think and obsess over everything. AAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!
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    (((ilikefree))) You have a lot to be dealing with. As far as paying for college make sure he applies for all of the grants he can. When my daughter went she got a scholarship because of grades but no help grant wise and some students got more paid for with grants than scholarships. I feel your pain about the driving hours. I'm going through it with my son too. Just do what you can with your house. I think as long as you have food and drinks that is what makes people happy.

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    I completely understand your stressed and to the max. I know with my son's special needs the school is being jerks and that's putting it nicely.

    Hugs and I am sending good vibs. your way.

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    Has your son taken an ACT test? I know depending on scores, you can get scholarships, even partially helps.
    Hopefully you can talk to him about getting his Eagle award.
    I know we found a real cheap reliable car for my DD off of craigslist. Of course it's an older one, buy hey, it runs and gets her there.

    I had my DD re-tested for her ADHD, and low and behold, she has out grown it. But I know that during that time, and even now, she goes to counseling, does your son do counseling? It might help.
    I know the probs. with the appetite and medications.... it's very frustrating, and then on top of it dealing with teachers and school that make you feel like your child is just plain uncontrolable or stupid or something (my situation), made me want to jump down their throats. I think since so many children are diagnosed with ADD/ADHD, that teachers should be taught on how to teach and handle/work with them.

    Hugs to you, it's a tough road right now, but you will make it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jasmine View Post
    Has your son taken an ACT test? I know depending on scores, you can get scholarships, even partially helps.
    Hopefully you can talk to him about getting his Eagle award.
    I know we found a real cheap reliable car for my DD off of craigslist. Of course it's an older one, buy hey, it runs and gets her there.

    I had my DD re-tested for her ADHD, and low and behold, she has out grown it. But I know that during that time, and even now, she goes to counseling, does your son do counseling? It might help.
    I know the probs. with the appetite and medications.... it's very frustrating, and then on top of it dealing with teachers and school that make you feel like your child is just plain uncontrolable or stupid or something (my situation), made me want to jump down their throats. I think since so many children are diagnosed with ADD/ADHD, that teachers should be taught on how to teach and handle/work with them.

    Hugs to you, it's a tough road right now, but you will make it.
    He didn't take ACT or SAT because he's going to a community college to be a police officer and they weren't required. I've searched for scholarships for that but couldn't really find anything. Unfortunately, most of the scholarship forms he gets from our school's website require the ACT or SAT.

    As for my other son, I'm HOPING and PRAYING he outgrows his ADD soon! They are only into the 2nd or 3rd week of the final quarter of the school year and he's gotten 3 detentions and a Friday school (where he has to stay after school on a Friday). The incompetent teacher who wrote out the form for this last detention wrote that his detention was to be served on 5-7-11 instead of 4-7-11 and didn't even write what Friday he'd be staying. He's struggled in school every year, but never so much as this year. His teachers just act as if I'm making up the fact that he has ADD or that I'm even making up the illness ADD. They're unwilling to cooperate with him, to dh and me it just seems as if they're all too willing to hand out detentions and see him fail. I'm constantly writing letters to them and the principal (the principal is really sympathetic and SOOO nice), but IF they reply to me, they just play it down, making it sound like they're calling him lazy. SO AGGRAVATING!!
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    I know that when my DD was diagnosed with ADHD that I brought a copy of the test results to prove to the school that in fact she did have ADHD, and even with the written explanation that she needed extra help etc... But the teachers still acted like they didn't care, and didn't know how to deal with or handle a student with this problem. It is very frustrating and I know I got down right pissed at the teachers for the way they treated my DD at times. Like I mentioned before, the teachers need to be far more educated in this area on how to deal with and work with students that do have ADD/ADHD. They need to be more kind. They made me feel really terrible at times.
    I hope your situation improves, and that next year you will get some good teachers that are more understanding and knowledgeable in this area. And as one parent to another, you hang on to, because I know at times that you want to pull out your hair also from frustration, yes, even from your own child. It is a tough road.

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    be thankful he is going to community college. My oldest son will be about $350K in student debt by the time he gets his PsyD (doctor of psychology) in 3 more years. There are grants but the government has cut alot of them. Maybe he will do better in Community College taking classes he wants and is interested in. Plus college is not high school and he should be treated more as an adult and that could make a big difference as well. Good luck.

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    I cureently am doing an internship at a prek program and one of our students is adhd; however, he is in two different classes and when he reaches the room I'm in the teachers are like oh look its so and so. I feel so bad for him.
    I learned alot about him because after hearing the way these teachers talked about him I wanted to know him not what they thought of him. I found out he like tractor trailer trucks, so I made him a deal. I tok pictures of 5 or 6 different trucks and took them to school today for him. He came in and said "did you bring me my pictures?" So I simply said "how do we ask/" He said " Miss Ashley can I see my pictures now?" I told him good job name and we sat down and looked at them together. He said I be good today I try real hard.

    It broke my heart for him to think that he is so bad when its his impulses not him and I know he can't control them. By the time he reaches our room his meds are worn off.

    I feel all these kids need is some one on one and some incentive that works for them. I honestly feel punishment doesn't work, although the schools like to deal it out.

    My advice look into a behavior plan for your child. If they have one see what it takes for them to reach that level where they get detention. Seek advice from an advocate or get your kiddo one. Blessing in disguise as they not only help you and your child, but attend all those meetings with you.

    Hope everything works out for you all.

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