Thread: So upset about neighbor!!!

Originally Posted by Qtxann315

They do have to register but for some reason he is not in the state registry. No, they do not require to tell neighbors, I thought it might be a courteous thing more than anything. I think they should need to though, especially if a little girl goes in their house. It is unfair for me and my husband, because we are constantly thinking if anything did happen in the past. The wife has said the husband has been with the girls alone. The scary thing is that my little girl will not be the last friend that enters the house.

From my perspective, a family with two girls, doesn't seem dangerous, but that was naive of me.

I did searches in the past for my neighborhood, but he does not pop up because its been so long ago. Who is to say this has not happen a second time. Just because he was caught once doesn't mean he hasn't done it a second time and got away with it. How is a person able to find out when there is no informstion about him on the states sex offender page. I mean I got lucky when I downloaded the one app. Just venting....we can't do anything now. Now I am avoiding him.

Has your daughter ever been over there to play when the Mom wasn't there? I have a family member (by marriage) who is a registered sex offender and he is NEVER to be allowed in the same room with a minor alone again, for the rest of his life. He didn't even come close to doing what this man did, but he is still to abide by all the same rules as any other sex offender. Anyway, if she has been over there and it was just the father, you can call the person over the sex offenders (I don't know who that would be exactly) and tell them... he could quite possibly still be breaking the law even if he hasn't touched another child.


Edited: I only read like the first sentence before I quoted and posted... so I do see the girls have been there w/ him alone... I would definitely find out who it is you need to speak to to find out about the laws regarding that. Here where I'm at, it's illegal.

It is possible his wife may not know about his past crimes...

My thought is, eirher he no longer has to register, or it happened when he was a minor, or the wife is not aware of it.

Where I come from, once you are convicted of an offense with a child under 10, you are not allowed around (or withing 300 yards) of children. Even your own, without court approved supervision. He could not live with his own child in the house. When I worked the NICU, I saw families that had to chose baby or daddy due to daddy's sex offender status. Many of the mom's chose DADDY over the newborn baby. The baby goes home with non-related foster parents.
They also have to send out letters every 6 months to all neighbors within 300 yards notifying them that a sex offender lives in the area.
One judge even makes them put a sign in the yard. None can live within 1000 yards of a school or daycare center.
I would find out what the laws are on when they need to register.
And, see what was violated, and report it.

Keep your daughter at home. I would think nothing happened to her, if she still wants to visit over there. She would be relieved not to HAVE to go visit her friend.

I do live in Oregon, so not all sex offender need to register. Thanks for the information.

I do agree, If I was married to a sex offender, I would be embarrassed about it too, but would suggest to my friend's children to not come over for whatever reason. The wife who I consider a friend, and still do, wish she would of warned me in a way, so my daughter would not have been in this situation.

The mother knows about the husband's past, but yet refuse to divorce him, don't know why. It gave me a false sense of security, that a family would not have a sex offender, and i thought no one in their right mind, would marry a sex offender. She knows I know about her husband's past, because we talked to the husband about it, but he did not get into details about it.She even told me she knows that I know the husband is a sex offender. The wife does not want to tell me any information because I think she believes I would start resenting her. I am upset about it, but I do know where she is coming from. The wife is a great person, but I would have to keep my eyes on the husband, but my feelings towards the family has changed. Trust is a issue with them, once you deceived me, I put a guard up. I told her that my DD is not going over any more and she understands that i am trying to protect her.

All the little details, such as age of the girl, when it happened, and etc, I get are from another mother who talks to my neighbor's mom about it. She was nice enough to tell me because we are a group of friends. It just so happens that it came out, and glad that I know now. I do have the obligation to tell other parents about it, and I will.

It happened over 15+ years ago, and the husband was not a minor but an adult, but I think in Oregon the rules are different, so registration is different here.

It makes me sick to think about it....

Its a tough situation.....My dd has a friend whose father is questionable. I don't want his situation to hinder the girl's friendship so i do allow play dates but I am present at them period!

I'd be pissed at her.....she is not friend if she didn't tell you. I am sure she was covering for her man or whatever but still you had a right to know. I thought people that are convicted of those types of things are not legally allowed around kids. Is that not the case??