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    All the little details, such as age of the girl, when it happened, and etc, I get are from another mother who talks to my neighbor's mom about it. She was nice enough to tell me because we are a group of friends. It just so happens that it came out, and glad that I know now. I do have the obligation to tell other parents about it, and I will.

    Since the details are 3rd hand, you may want to look into another way. Maybe the truth is not as bad as it looks, and the 3rd hand knowledge is incorrect. Rumor has a way of mutating information. Since this happened over 15 years ago, it could have been something else: like a teen sleeping with her boyfriend who was in his 20s. It is still illegal, but there are details that change everyone's view.

    You need to get the actual details. Look him up at the county courthouse, or if Oregon has a state sustem that allows you to look up a person, try to do it. Go to a police station. Be armed with his name and birthdate. Tell them you heard he was a sex offender and you want to know if your child is at risk. Criminal checks are public knowledge. You may have to pay $10 or so for it, but you would get the actual details.
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    She said she called the state sex offender office and they told her. I would think they would have the correct information.

    Quote Originally Posted by Qtxann315 View Post
    When we moved into our current house in 2006, we befriend our neighbor. We didn't think much of it, they were a family, Russian mom, and American Father. A typical family. My daughter who was 2 at that time played with their 4 year old all the time. The 4 year old came over to our house all the time, and when my daughter turn I believe 3.5 or 4 I started sending her over.

    Fast track to present time:

    A few months ago I found out the father was a past sex offender. The only reason I found was because I downloaded a sex offender app on my phone, and it shows past offenses. He only did it once and I searched and search on the internet and could not find anything. I finally called the state sex offender office, and they confirmed that it was sodomy with a young girl. When I mean young, I mean under 10. I don't understand why would they not tell me. I know it's embarrassing, but how can you put my daughter in that situation. Especially the mother, whom I consider as a friend. So for about 4 years, my daughter could have been a victim. I ask her and question her but she says nothing ever happens.

    I'm so afraid that it could of happen but she's not saying anything because he could have threaten her.

    I have nothing against the mother and children, but I feel like they completely lost my trust and that I want to put a 10 foot wall up and never see them again.

    The girls of course does not know what is happening and I won't tell them. I still let her friend come over, but my daughter is never going to their house.

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    I am confused then. If she downloaded it and then called the state office...
    How was she only able to find out from the friend?
    So, I guess I got lost in the variety of postings.
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    Well, I just reread the whole thread and I see what you are talking about and now I am just as confused as you.

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    Let's start from the beginning. I first downloaded an app on my phone, and it pointed out all the past and present sex offenders. He was on it, which sparked my attention. I could not get any information on him, other than name, age and location. I searched the internet for any information, but since it was an offense so long ago, there is no information on him. Then I called the sex offender office for my state, they confirmed that he sodomized a girl but would not give me the age, and also said it was a long time ago. Then a mother talked to my neighbor's mother and that is where most of the details are coming from. The mother came up to me and told me, because she knew my little girl goes to our neighbor's house. I got the age, and when it happened. I spoke briefly with the neighbor's mom and she told me when it happened and how it happened. So it was a young girl and it did happen in the 90's, but the father was a grown adult late 20's that did what he did. I hope this clarifies the details.

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    Thanks for clarifying it. I'm glad you found out so you can protect your daughter from him. People think child molesters are strangers who stand out when in actuality they are usually the favorite uncle or family friend. They don't look scary or frightening so that is why you never suspect them. I went to school with a guy who was nice and seemed like a great guy. He raped his own daughter. He served time for it. You just never know. I'm really glad you are going to warn the other mothers.

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