Thread: Facebook and family

I am kinda upset here. I am from a large family. I guess it is too much for anyone to call each other. I just got the shock of my life when I logged on to facebook and saw a posting by one of my sisters-in-law that my brother has colon cancer.

This info wasn't sent through private message, it was posted on her wall. Am I the only one who sees this as an extremely tacky way to let the rest of the family know? It wasn't even her husband.

It wasnt her news to share. Period. I made a post on Facebook about being a mamaw right after I found out, but not until I asked my son and his gf first. I dont know that anyone who know them would have seen it, but no matter, it wasnt my news to share without asking permission.

Yep...defintely tacky. I can see posting it AFTER all the family had the news, etc...if one was asking for prayer, etc. But, I would have also asked if it was okay to do so. Maybe your brother wouldn't have wanted his health condition posted for all to see.

My niece suffered a miscarriage...and because she didn't want to talk about it on the phone, actually sent us all a short message on FB. But, it was a private message that only family could read. My SIL (her mother) not knowing I had already found out via FB, sent me a quick e-mail also informing me. She was surprised that my niece had actually told us because she was quite upset and, my SIL doesn't get the whole FB phenomenon.

When I found out that my son and his wife were expecting twins, I kept the news to myself and waited until they posted it. As an earlier poster said...it wasn't my news to share, it was their's!

However, I do get the dynamic of FB. I have one brother...both our parents are gone. He lives in the same area, but if it wasn't for FB, we would probably talk to each other once or twice a year. But because of FB...we are in regular communication with each other and at least know what is going on in each other's lives. Over the years, we just developed separate lives. We still love each other, but do our own thing. I'm grateful that we can keep in touch on a more regular basis...even if it is through a superficial connection such as FB.

Definitely T A C K Y!

I have some family members that fight on facebook and air all kinds of their dirty laundry. Totally tacky.

That is just awful. I am so sorry you had to find out like that.

I don't know why people are so into being the first to spread news when it is not their news.

Tacky? yes....but giving her the benefit of the doubt....perhaps she thought everyone (immediate) knew already?

TACKY & a private family matter; not for internet friends to see

Tacky or not (I think it is) I wouldn't post any kind of personal information like that for anyone to see. When my mother became ill in 05 I asked her myself if I could post about it. As she put it, no one knows me, will ever meet me and you'll (me) be getting the messages, not me.

My sil posted her cell phone number on Facebook I was floored. Then, wondered why she was getting calls from all over the country. The best advice my mother told me about the internet was don't post anything you, yourself can't erase. A lot of the time you can't so it's there forever or until the person who started the site deletes it.

I'm sorry that happened. In very poor taste. It's a family matter. Some things just need to stay private....this is one of them.