Thread: Need some suggestions about son's looser father..

Originally Posted by Quaker_Parrots

If you badger him like that, I can understand why he doesnt call. You wanted him to call and he did. What time does your son go to school? Maybe he wanted to catch him before he left.

I don't badger him EVERY time he calls or I call him. We honestly don't even talk that often maybe once per month if that. Plus my son has a cell phone that I pay for so he can talk to him whenever (within reasonable hours & without talkin to me) His dad choices to call him on my cell phone and on our house phone as well. As far as him calling that early in the morning we were both asleep and didn't hear the phone ring at 5:45am but heard it at 6:15 and we were still both asleep it woke up both of us. Plus he knows what time my son is out of school he could call him anytime after school to find out how his day went. Not call and wake him up.

Originally Posted by DezaRay24

His dad choices to call him on my cell phone and on our house phone as well.

He could be doing that to show you he is making an effort.

I honestly cant see how the man is such a bad loser dad. He does have him in his home, he has contact with him, and pays support. You could be a big reason he doesn't do more. He seems to be trying, maybe not to your standards, but an effort is being made. No one likes to be told they are a bad person or be harped on. Maybe you should lighten up.

Originally Posted by Quaker_Parrots

He could be doing that to show you he is making an effort.

I honestly cant see how the man is such a bad loser dad. He does have him in his home, he has contact with him, and pays support. You could be a big reason he doesn't do more. He seems to be trying, maybe not to your standards, but an effort is being made. No one likes to be told they are a bad person or be harped on. Maybe you should lighten up.

He makes his son cry because his son feels neglected by him...IMO that makes him a loser despite any type of interaction he attempts to have with his son. You DO NOT make your child feel like crap unless you're a loser.

Originally Posted by Quaker_Parrots

He could be doing that to show you he is making an effort.

I honestly cant see how the man is such a bad loser dad. He does have him in his home, he has contact with him, and pays support. You could be a big reason he doesn't do more. He seems to be trying, maybe not to your standards, but an effort is being made. No one likes to be told they are a bad person or be harped on. Maybe you should lighten up.

He has him in his home yes but then don't do anything with him. Im not sayin he has to take him out and spend tons of money on him to be a good dad But go for a walk talk. Toss around the baseballs. My son loves to go outside with me and toss baseballs around. I have even let him take all his baseball stuff over to his dads and they don't ever toss them. His wife sits on her PC and my ex sits on his PC the whole time. My son is left to play with the 6yr old daughter. He comes home and tells me how sick he is of playing Polly Pockets or Little pet shop haha

Just because he pays me a child support don't make him a good dad. Lots of men pay but don't play. To be honest I would rather have him support his some emotionally and come to his baseball games and talk to him about "man" stuff than get $200 a month!

I also don't sit there every time I see him or we talk and call him a bad person. Honestly I think I've been too nice to him. I know I could go back to court and get more money outta him but i don't. I give him chance after chance and opportunity after opportunity to step up to the plate but he don't want to.