Thread: Need some suggestions about son's looser father..

Originally Posted by hblueeyes

I'd be calling the heads of the Mormon Church and asking how they can allow a man like him to be a scout master? It really slaps them, the Mormons, in the face. Also ask them for advice on how to get him involved with his son. Maybe if the church views him differently, he will change, if only for appearances.

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Haha you know what is funny I actually thought about calling his Bishop LOL I just think it so funny that the LDS church focuses so much on Family, like the commercials they advertise say.."Family isn't it about time" BLAH, gag, gag give me a break!!! One more reason that I'm glad I'm not LDS.

I agree with you blueeyes. I don't see how he can be a scout leader or teach little kids like he does since he is so lax with his own child.

Originally Posted by DezaRay24

Haha you know what is funny I actually thought about calling his Bishop LOL I just think it so funny that the LDS church focuses so much on Family, like the commercials they advertise say.."Family isn't it about time" BLAH, gag, gag give me a break!!! One more reason that I'm glad I'm not LDS.

I agree with you blueeyes. I don't see how he can be a scout leader or teach little kids like he does since he is so lax with his own child.

Chloe's dad is a mormon as well- seems to be a common thing for them to create a child then not care about the child. Although he's also on the crazy side too.

I'm going through the same thing with AJ's dad. AJ's dad gives everything to his gf's kids and nothing to AJ, doesn't call when he says he's going to, nothing. To be honest I find it funny. AJ remembers things, he gets angry, and it's really funny to hear him go off on his father.

I'm just glad Jon's in my life as well as the kids lives; he treats us all like gold...he's amazing!

Originally Posted by Licchl05

Chloe's dad is a mormon as well- seems to be a common thing for them to create a child then not care about the child. Although he's also on the crazy side too.

Well, since my son goes to a Christian church with me he isn't allowed to go with his father to church. So I wonder if his father don't just try to "sweep him under the rug" in a sense. That way people at church don't ask questions about what they don't see and then his dads "Perfect" reputation isn't tainted..

Sadly, I'm not remarried or dating anyone for my son to have a male figure in his life

Originally Posted by papadsgirls

See yall are better than I am, I'm the type of person, I will call you out on something. I have custody of my niece and nephew and it's nothing for me to tell the parents "don't make promise you will not keep to these kids". I would nicely call him without your son knowing and tell him " Thanks for Flownting in your sons face that you are going to Disney and leaving him out". And right after that i would call the church to find out if he is truely a Scout leader, and let then know that he has a son that he doesn't spend time with, and if he isn't I would make it known to him that lies will not be tolerated to your son. Sometimes we need to sit and talk to our kids and find out how they feel when a parent is doing this. He may want to talk and is just unsure if he can talk to you about the situation with out anger being shown. So you may want to ask casually if he needs to talk about the situation with his father.

Also see if you community offers a big brother program and see if you can get him in it. That way dad will have some competition.

I have talked to my son about other times that his dad has let him down. My son is pretty comfortable talking to me. My son broke down in tears the last time we talked about when his dad promised to go see a talk by Nick Vujicic (he has no arms or legs & a very powerful speaker) My son really wanted his dad to go well last minute he canceled out on him cuz my son wouldn't take a shower so his dad said he was punishing him by not going to see Nick cuz of the whole shower crap. So after the show we talked and he just broke down and told me how much he hads when he goes to his dads and they just sit there all weekend and when he asks him to do stuff his dad says no, or we have no money, yada, yada...

I've talked to his dad on sooo many occasions about the way he treats his son and its like its in one ear and out the other...Sadly I really just don't think he cares. I really think his son is more of an inconvenience than a blessing.

Also looking at his fathers wife's family's Facebooks sounds like this is a big family vacation.So ya I think I'm just gonna call him out on it & see what is up instead of assuming..

((((((((dezaray))))))(((((dezaray's DS)))))))

You have to accept that your son's dad is an A$$!

Pack a picnic and go to the park or zoo, that a cheap "vacation" that you can take

Things, trips, etc are not what your son will remember. Its the quality time you spend with him that will count. And I know that you give him plenty of quality time

Originally Posted by papadsgirls

Also most states after the age of 12 will not force a child to go to a parents home for visitation. So maybe it's time for daddy to see that he doesn't want to go. Let him make the call and put it in writing...

I know personally that this is the law in Utah as both my sister and I have divorces in Utah that involve children.

(I have to give Kudos to UT for children's rights: My ex hardly showed up to court hearings, didn't turn in paperwork before deadlines, etc...the Judge gave me sole custody of our son even though we were asking for joint, because the dipsh*t didn't do his part)

So here's the update:

I called him out on it since it was eating out me hardcore! So I called him and as usual he tried to make every excuse not to talk to me. I asked him if he had any upcoming things this next month and he said no. I said oh so you’re not planning a trip to Disney Land? He said well her parents and family are going and taking his wife and his wife’s daughter and son that her parents raise.
I asked him did you get invited to go and he said he didn’t remember but then he said later that he couldn’t get the time off work. (They are going during spring break) So right there was a lie! How do you not remember getting and invite but then remember that you couldn’t go cause you couldn’t get the time off work??? Duh!

I asked him if he could go would he have took his son and his answer at first was that he didn’t know and couldn’t really answer that. Then when I started to pester him about it he said that the economy is bad and he don’t have a lot of money for trips….

I told him again he needs to be a better dad and take time out for his son. Also that he never calls him. So this is what the jerk off did the next day! He calls at 5:45am then again at 6:15 am! Oh I was pissed!!! Why would you be so ignorant to call that early in the morning?

Again he will never change so I don’t know why I bother……

If you badger him like that, I can understand why he doesnt call. You wanted him to call and he did. What time does your son go to school? Maybe he wanted to catch him before he left.