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yep, as soon as the baby is born, get those DNA tests on the roll, and prove the baby is your sons, and then he will be set up for visitation rights etc....
Although, I do hope things get settled before hand.
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12-11-2009 02:22 PM
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The lawyer said that the court battle could take up to two years and since my son and her are not married, in the state of Missouri, he has no rights (even with a DNA proving him the father) until a judge says he does. It does not matter if she puts his name on the birth cert. or not or what DNA says, a judge has to declare him legally the father. I think that is BS! She can collect child support from him and him still not have any rights to visitation until a judge says so, and that can take 2 years! Is that fair?!! Heck NO!
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Originally Posted by
jonette5
The lawyer said that the court battle could take up to two years and since my son and her are not married, in the state of Missouri, he has no rights (even with a DNA proving him the father) until a judge says he does. It does not matter if she puts his name on the birth cert. or not or what DNA says, a judge has to declare him legally the father. I think that is BS! She can collect child support from him and him still not have any rights to visitation until a judge says so, and that can take 2 years! Is that fair?!! Heck NO!
that's just messed up
wow
why is she being like this? Do you have any clue as to in why?
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If that's really the law you should write your state legislators. That needs to be changed.
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Wow i couldn't imagine not seeing my granddaughters,that's what keeps me going.
I feel for you and i'm sorry for everything you are going through
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Originally Posted by
jasmine
that's just messed up
wow
why is she being like this? Do you have any clue as to in why?
Yep, messed up! We have no idea what happened. My son went with her to the sonogram the end of Sept. She came over here two weeks later and brought me the picture so I could copy it for him and then BAM, she just quit talking to him or me all together. He has tried calling her, going to her house, her work, texting her and all she will tell him is "we don't need you, leave us alone". She will not return any of my calls, texts or facebook messages. I wish we could get a reason out of her, at least we'd know what we were dealing with. My son even tried talking to her mother and she would not talk to him either. I am really beginning to wonder if this is really his baby or if she just thought he was the best choice and would marry her and when he did not, she decided to pull this crap. They were never a couple. They have been friends for 6 years and got together one "drunken" night when him and his girlfriend were broke up. Him and his girlfriend were back together before this girl ever even found out she was preg. I am just at a loss and will just have to wait things out and see what happens.
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Wow, Hugs to you. I hope it all works out. Maybe after the baby is born, you will be able to gain footing with all of this, as she may have a change of heart.
We had us, we had him, now we have everything.
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Just to give you some hope, remember that pregnant women are usually crazy due to no fault of their own. Remember that? And since you don't know of a reason , maybe there isn't one. My son in law used to keep me in tears about how I wasn't going to get to keep my grandchildren etc and now I get them for 2 weeks at a time. People change. I will be thinking of you as will so many of the rest of us.
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Originally Posted by
jonette5
I am really beginning to wonder if this is really his baby or if she just thought he was the best choice and would marry her and when he did not, she decided to pull this crap. They were never a couple. They have been friends for 6 years and got together one "drunken" night when him and his girlfriend were broke up. Him and his girlfriend were back together before this girl ever even found out she was preg.
Or perhaps she thinks or knows that this isn't his baby, and is trying to keep her distance as to not keep his hopes up, only to devestate him. Defenitly a DNA test is in order from your above statement.
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Originally Posted by
jasmine
Or perhaps she thinks or knows that this isn't his baby, and is trying to keep her distance as to not keep his hopes up, only to devestate him. Defenitly a DNA test is in order from your above statement.
You know if it is not his, that would be ok. I or he would hold nothing against her. I just wish she would tell him it's not his, let us do a DNA to prove it and then all our lives could go on. Yes I would be sad and a little upset at first, thinking I was going to get a grandbaby and then finding out not, but that would be easier to take than court battles for visitation.
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Especially when the 'baby' was so welcomed, but she wasn't going to be in the position that she had hoped.....and with all the pregnancy hormones and the uncertainty of becoming a new mother (perhaps feeling unwanted from the child's father in the way that she wanted or thought she would be/should be)...one could only imagine. She may feel very hurt and scared. It's life changing and very scary having a child, especially when one isn't married or in a 'committed' relationship. 
Perhaps in time things will settled down with her.Mrs Pepperpot is a lady who always copes with the tricky situations that she finds herself in....
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