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Just so over hearing it!!!
My best friend is dating/living with this guy. They have a 8 month old son together, she has a 3 year old daughter, and he has an almost 2 year old daughter. Every time they'd get his daughter my best friend would be the one taking care of her, waking with her, bathing her, etc. Since her son has been born she's done all the feeding, bathing, etc. For the first year they were together her bf didn't work, blaming it on a thyroid condition...and despite the fact he wasn't working he still wouldn't care for his own daughter when they had her on weekends. Well now he's working and my best friend isn't. He blows his money and is constantly up my friends butt wanting money off her...now he makes decent money- paychecks are 1k after taxes..he called her a c u next tuesday because she wouldn't pay his cell phone bill with her unemployment! He's very secretive, she knows for a fact he's talking to this chick who's 19(he's 31) who he used to work with that is now in TX for college. This chick in TX knew about my friends bf's days off from work before my friend even knew! He has been going to his car to make calls and as soon as my friend goes outside he's off the phone, he takes his phone everywhere and deletes his text messages. He accuses her of cheating because she left a pair of her undies in the living room the one day(they fell out the laundry basket) and speaks to her like crap.
Her family isn't any better really, they create alot of drama for her, but she's turning it all into an excuse for his behavior. I've told her time and time again that i can see she's unhappy, to make friends with Glad and throw his chit out. One day she's fine the next she's wanting to kill him and screaming how she's done, it's starting to affect how patient she is with her kids, and i even told her this.
Im just so over sitting here hearing her complain about him yet making excuses up for the way he's treating her. I have no idea what on earth i should do as she's my best friend and i love her to death, but i'm so over the negativity already!
*sigh*
You, yes you, lemme see YOU walk on water!!
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10-01-2009 08:04 PM
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unfortunately, she is just going to have to go through these things herself until she finally wakes up and realizes it is not worth it. There's not anything that you can say or do that is going to change it. Uggh, makes me stressed just reading about her life.
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Originally Posted by
Licchl05
he called her a c u next tuesday because she wouldn't pay his cell phone bill with her unemployment!
HUH??
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Sorry for the confusion, the c u next tuesday thing is from SITC.
You, yes you, lemme see YOU walk on water!!
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Originally Posted by
Licchl05
Sorry for the confusion, the c u next tuesday thing is from SITC.
LOL...I was wondering how he could call her a name next Tuesday. I thought maybe I was in some kind of time warp. lol
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Well its like I told a friend of mine who is dealing with a DH that drinks and lies and sneaks about it. She has been putting up with it for 4 yrs, fighting, whining etc. I finally told her I was tired of hearing about it and her not changing anything. Comes up all kinds of excuses such as how she is going to pay her bills etc. But its like I told her , after 4 yrs if she hasnt figured it out yet .. nothing is going to change unless SHE changes it and that I dont want to hear about the same thing next year
If ya ain't careful, this flea will bite your arse!
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Originally Posted by
fleabones3
tc. But its like I told her , after 4 yrs if she hasnt figured it out yet .. nothing is going to change unless SHE changes it and that I dont want to hear about the same thing next year
AMEN, if you tolerate the treatment you are condoning the treatment and teaching them it is acceptable to treat you that way.
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Sometimes, because of personal self-esteem or other issues, people find it hard to leave a relationship - even one they know is bad for them. Not leaving or putting your foot down about the way your significant other acts or treats you might not be practical to some people, but it could be the only course of survival that some people see. Of course, we all know that whining about the problem isn't going to fix it. But, sometimes a person just needs an outlet to get things off their chest. Being the outlet isn't always easy, especially when your hearing the same problems with no solutions all the time... but you might not realize what a difference it makes to that person just to have someone to vent to when they think they have no other option.
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You really can't do anything about it. After all, it is her problem, not yours. I don't mean to sound mean or anything, but I have known couples who go through the same thing year after year. When she decides she has had enough, she will leave. Just tell her she is bringing you down with her constant complaining about the situation (although I am sure you can find nicer words), and if she decides to leave you will do whatever you can to help.
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nah, you don't sound mean. i can just so see myself just saying "STFU" to her. Either chit or get off the pot, yanno what i mean? It's just really frustrating to hear it over and over how done she is yet she does nothing about it. He'll know she's to that point then he'll kiss her butt she'll forgive him and he does the crap all over again.
You, yes you, lemme see YOU walk on water!!
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