Thread: Am I out of line????

No you are not out of line at all. The mother is at fault here. She should be responsible for calling you and getting her child to you. She doesn't realize how lucky she is that someone actually gets up and picks her child up. It shows that she has a lack of respect for you and your husband. I feel sorry for the child. I know that you probably like keeping this child but you are better off if you don't because of just dealing with her mother. Good luck I hope that this woman sees the light and changes. You sound like a great sitter. Taking the time to sign them up to a craft class and take them there is awesome. You sound like you go the extra mile for the kids you keep. To bad people don't appreciate stuff like that. I know that I would if you were my sitter.

Now, the mom's all upset that I wouldn't let the little girl come over yesterday and made her cry. That's not my fault. I wasn't the one that didn't open the door or not call. Here's the messages that were sent back and forth:

Mom
September 17 at 10:13am
Yes mam, I talked to her this morning she is ready to see me so if I get paid today I will be picking her up and i will need yal to keep her tommorrow. I will call you tonight and tell you if I need u guys ok.

Melanie September 17 at 10:48am
She'll be here tomorrow and Saturday??? Just want to make sure.

Mom
September 17 at 2:48pm
Yes most likely

Melanie
September 17 at 3:07pm
Call me tonite and let me know. That way I can plan on something for us to do for Friday and Saturday.

Mom
September 17 at 4:13pm
okay i will

Now, she (mom) wants to put her daughter in Pre-K. Not considering that she'll need new clothes, lunches, snacks, after school care. I replied to her last email. I'll let you know what she says next.

Sounds like she doesnt have her week planned out in advance.. where does she work at? she should know when she gets paid and what her work schedule is in advance..

when my children were small we took them to a preschool, and you paid for X amount of time. If you were not there, well, you paid anyway, you were paying for a block for a block of time. Maybe that is the way you need to arrange things in the future.

I still haven't heard from her since my last email this morning. She works at an apt. complex. She's the mgr. She has a schedule (work) that she has to follow. She works part time at a restaurant as a waitress. As far as I know she makes pretty good money. However, I haven't been paid in over a month either. Still taking her daughter to the dr., shopping, out to eat.

I just don't think it's fair to me or the child. Both counting on things and momma decides something else and doesn't say anything til last minute.

MEL!!! Time to wake up and smell the coffee. This woman is taking advantage of you and you are letting her. Why haven't you been paid in over a month? That is totally unacceptable! In reading the path of e-mails back and forth, I got no sense that this woman understands that she is being rude and inconsiderate of your's and/or Aggie's time.

Pre-K is great for children as it really helps them with their socialization skills with other children. However...the mother will not have the latitude to bring their child to school whenever it is convenient for her as opposed to the schedule.