Thread: The stand off......

Their hormones are hitting them hard. LOL

You are lucky, we had SS call the police on us. He didn't want to take out the trash. Roll eyes.

Luckily, I had his counselor on the phone when the cops arrived. The one cop read him the riot act. He says he does not remember it happening today. They have out of body experiences. LOL

So far, my kids are a little on the young side to deal with much of this, but with the turmoil we are currently dealing with (DVO against their father and an abrupt end to visiting him), my son is acting out somewhat and has a meltdown every once in a while. Last fall, he had a major meltdown (he was 8) that consisted of him slamming doors, screaming his fool head off, and crying like he had just watched his puppy get run over. Even knowing why the visitation stopped doesn't make it any easier on him. Luckily, my father and brother are stepping in as much as they can and trying to spend time with him - he needs a male influence in his life.
I know as a teenager, my mother and I butted heads quite often. Some of it was her fault (she wouldn't let me walk away to avoid a fight) and some of it was mine (I was resentful of many things, including her preferential treatment of my younger brother). I never once told her that I hated her or called her names to her face (behind her back was a different story though). I realize now that I had issues, mostly depression, that weren't dealt with and it caused a lot of problems for me. I have talked to her about it now that I'm grown with kids of my own. I have told her on more than one occasion that she really wasn't a bad mother, she just wasn't the mother I needed as a teenager. While that may sound harsh to many people, I followed it up by explaining to her that I needed someone that took my depression and suicidal thoughts seriously, not someone that told me I was lying when I tried to explain and chose to ignore the problem completely. It hurt her at first, but knows that I love her and understands what I mean now. We have a good relationship now, though we still don't see eye-to-eye on many things. But, I'm proof that things do get better, even if they don't seem to have a single speck of silver lining in the gray cloud. Good luck with DD and hopefully you can resist duct taping her to her wall until she's 20