Thread: DH thinks I should be left in the dark

Maybe in his eyes, he's not your husband.. your not his wife, so he doesn't owe it to you to tell you anything.

Originally Posted by Anniston

First of all, we are not married. I call him DH online, due to the fact that we have been together for years and we have a ten year old son. "Boyfriend" is an understatement....or so I felt!

His job situation is not the greatest right now. What sucks is that the only time I am updated on something regarding his job is when I overhear him telling someone else.

A while ago, I was very nervous because he was contemplating leaving his company to work for a much smaller outfit. That had me stressed, as I did not want to see him downgrade after having years in at his company. I overheard him telling someone that the new prospect (for which he had completed some side work) was being wishy washy about paying him promptly. So he was no longer feeling comfortable about them.

I would have liked to know that before I overheard it.

Last night, I heard him telling someone on the phone that he thinks that the only reason he has not been let go is that his boss (who is very passive) does not have the balls to call him and tell him to bring in the phone and credit card.

I know he does not want me to worry, but at his age (43) it is time to really think about 20 years from now. I love him more than anything, but this has me feeling so isolated and secondary to his plans.
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i soo totally understand your situation...

My DH is the only one that works, and sometimes he stresses , because if he doesnt make the money, it all falls on his shoulders. He tells me " dont worry or stress, let me do that". Ok yeah, um that doesnt work that way. I am always the one saying, we will make it like we always do, although easy for me to say since I am the one sitting at home and he is the one bringing in the money