Thread: No good deed goes unpunished

In August my husband donated a kidney to a friend. I didn't want him to do it, but I couldn't stop him. The surgery went well, but nothing else has since. He suffered nerve damage in his abdomen, which required heavy pain killers just for him to function. It took 3 hospitalizations to diagnose the problem and find a pain med that worked. He ended up on Methadone. Two days ago he slept through time for his morning dose and woke up pain free. He decided to flush the rest of the pills (did not tell me about any of this) and now has sunk into a depression so deep that he does nothing but sleep and cry. Methadone should be tapered down, and now he won't call the Dr because he says he won't take any more pills of any kind. I am trying so hard to help him, but my father died on Chistmas day and we have a disabled child to care for. I am trying to keep working full time and take care of everything while grieving for my dad. I am only one person. Some days I want to join him in his misery, but someone has to keep things going. I can't take much more of this.

Originally Posted by squirt661

So sorry to read what you are going thru. I believe your husband did what he thought was the right thing to do. I will keep you and him in my prayers, and I hope all works out better for you two and your child. I know it's not easy, but try to keep the faith.

Yes, he's a good man who doesn't deserve all this suffering. Thanks for your prayers, we need them.

My goodness, Bless your husband and you for being so great. I am so sorry your husband is having such a hard time emotionally and medically due to his generous heart. I will be praying for you both.

And, I am so sorry for your loss. When I lost mom, a dirty laundry sent me into a tailspin. You have a lot on your plate, hon, just remember that He only gives us as much as we can handle.

Boy your d/h is a great freind to have. I hope he calls and gets the help he needs so he can feel better.

So far has refused any help, says he won't take any pills, so no sense in going to the Dr. I did call the doc today anyway, but he never called back. I know it's withdrawal, and I fear I will have to wait until he is unconscious before I can call the squad. My heart is just breaking.

What a wonderful thing your husband did, but I am so sorry that he is suffering so badly now. I know this has to be so hard for you. My thoughts are with you and praying that things will get better very soon.