Just need to vent

[Wimzik]

She did it again

I just need to vent, I am just so pissed, it's all I can do not to confront his ex right now, but that would only make things worse. okay, just a little background, when they separated it was agreed that she would keep the van because she had the kids, and he would take the car, now the van is in his name, so technically it is his, but like I said she has the kids so it only made sense that she would keep the van. Now, they are not divorced, and nothing was officially divided, she kept the house, the van, and basically everything, and he took only his personal belongings and the car, it just wasn't worth fighting her for anything else.
Well the problem is, whenever we have the kids for the weekend (he has 3 kids, I have my daughter living with me) the car is not big enough for all of us to go anywhere together, occasionally we ask a friend to tag along when we want to go somewhere, or we limit our activities to places we can walk to, but once in a blue moon we will ask her to borrow the van,(christmas the last 2 years and thanksgiving, to go to his mom's house) and it's always a big issue.
Well last week her boyfriend called chris to ask him to give him a ride somewhere, it was no problem so he did. The next day he wanted to borrow our car to go somewhere, well I hesitated with that, why should we do him any favors? but then we thought well maybe if we let him use the car, she will let us take the van this weekend so we could do something with the kids, so he let her bf take the car, and asked him if maybe we could borrow the van, he said sure, no problem. So we made plans to go spend the day with chris's mom. Well last thursday he spoke to "Her" to make sure it was okay, apparrently her bf had never mentioned it to her, so she said she would talk to him and get back to us, Well then she said it was okay, so it was all planned that we were going to visit Gram on sunday and the kids were excited, well then something came up, and Gram said that she might have other plans, so instead of disappointing the kids, we told them that if we couldn't go see her, then we would go to the beach or do something else. Well then when the kids talked to their mom last night, one of them innocently mentioned that we might go to the beach and she flipped.
She totally flipped out accusing us of lying to her, and blah blah and we couldn't take the van because we tried to pull one over on her...wtf? first of all, we had every intention of telling her if we decided to go to the beach, we would have to get their bathing suits for one thing, we weren't keeping anything from her, she didn't even give him a chance to say anything before she had a fit.
The kids were so upset, They were really looking forward to getting out of the house, and it's like a chain reaction, we feel bad for getting the kids hopes up, gram feels bad for having other plans, our friend rob feels bad because he's busy today, everyone feels bad, but the one person that should.

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[kygirl71]

Sounds alot like my husbands ex. Cant stand that woman! Ugh.

[SLance68]

Go get the van and tell her to find a new way to transport herself and her bf. I bet she changes her tune then.

[iluvmybaby]

She did it again

I just need to vent, I am just so pissed, it's all I can do not to confront his ex right now, but that would only make things worse. okay, just a little background, when they separated it was agreed that she would keep the van because she had the kids, and he would take the car, now the van is in his name, so technically it is his, but like I said she has the kids so it only made sense that she would keep the van. Now, they are not divorced, and nothing was officially divided, she kept the house, the van, and basically everything, and he took only his personal belongings and the car, it just wasn't worth fighting her for anything else.
Well the problem is, whenever we have the kids for the weekend (he has 3 kids, I have my daughter living with me) the car is not big enough for all of us to go anywhere together, occasionally we ask a friend to tag along when we want to go somewhere, or we limit our activities to places we can walk to, but once in a blue moon we will ask her to borrow the van,(christmas the last 2 years and thanksgiving, to go to his mom's house) and it's always a big issue.
Well last week her boyfriend called chris to ask him to give him a ride somewhere, it was no problem so he did. The next day he wanted to borrow our car to go somewhere, well I hesitated with that, why should we do him any favors? but then we thought well maybe if we let him use the car, she will let us take the van this weekend so we could do something with the kids, so he let her bf take the car, and asked him if maybe we could borrow the van, he said sure, no problem. So we made plans to go spend the day with chris's mom. Well last thursday he spoke to "Her" to make sure it was okay, apparrently her bf had never mentioned it to her, so she said she would talk to him and get back to us, Well then she said it was okay, so it was all planned that we were going to visit Gram on sunday and the kids were excited, well then something came up, and Gram said that she might have other plans, so instead of disappointing the kids, we told them that if we couldn't go see her, then we would go to the beach or do something else. Well then when the kids talked to their mom last night, one of them innocently mentioned that we might go to the beach and she flipped.
She totally flipped out accusing us of lying to her, and blah blah and we couldn't take the van because we tried to pull one over on her...wtf? first of all, we had every intention of telling her if we decided to go to the beach, we would have to get their bathing suits for one thing, we weren't keeping anything from her, she didn't even give him a chance to say anything before she had a fit.
The kids were so upset, They were really looking forward to getting out of the house, and it's like a chain reaction, we feel bad for getting the kids hopes up, gram feels bad for having other plans, our friend rob feels bad because he's busy today, everyone feels bad, but the one person that should.

Alright, this is what you do. Call her and say, if you don't bring me within 24 hours, I am going to report the van stolen. Since it is in your boyfriends/husbands name, then legally it does NOT belong to her. She will need to get her own van, her boyfriend needs to buy her one, it sounds like they are both major losers ...

[magenta]

Yeah, get the van back! Or sell it to her and buy yourselves a larger vehicle. That way you do not have to ask her for anything.

[tngirl]

One of two things, he needs to take the van or you guys need to get one of your own. Not doing things with all the kids is not really an option so I don't see any other solution unless they get the divorce and get everything in writing and through the courts.

[andreame70]

Unless you guys have something in writing like a separation agreement that specifically states that she keeps the van, then it is your BF's, at least until they go to court to divide assets.

Technically, you guys have more passengers to haul around when you have the kids. His three, your one and both of you. Since there are six of you, then YOU guys need the van, not her. When the kids are with her, there are three of them, her and the BF, which makes 5. They can all fit in the car.

I'll be damned if I would beg and plead for ANYTHING from an ex of my husband's. Take the van, which is legally his, or get yourselves something bigger. Why would you guys want to put your lives in limbo over a vehicle, praying each time that she is going to "have a good day" and let you borrow it? Gives her too damn much power and control over what all of you do. She doesn't have that right anymore.

Andrea

[cpbaby]

I'll be damned if I would beg and plead for ANYTHING from an ex of my husband's. Take the van, which is legally his, or get yourselves something bigger. Why would you guys want to put your lives in limbo over a vehicle, praying each time that she is going to "have a good day" and let you borrow it? Gives her too damn much power and control over what all of you do. She doesn't have that right anymore.

Andrea

[ahippiechic]

Want me to go kick her ass Wimzik??? I will.

[vicky122]

Is the van only his just because it is in just his name. If they are married it would be thiers. At least here in Il. Our friends got a divorce and the house they had was in his name at the divorce hearing he had to buy her out and then she had to do a quick claim release to him.
Sounds kind of all messed up to me. At any rate the ex did wrong with the kids not being able to go.

[Jackie_Blu]

Go get the van and tell her to find a new way to transport herself and her bf. I bet she changes her tune then.