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    Quote Originally Posted by Kelsey1224 View Post
    I remember when your husband and father beat you several years ago. I'm not going to condemn you for staying with him. A lot of us have said that we will never stay in a situation if something happened, i.e., physical abuse or infidelity. But, when it actually happens it is sometimes hard to take the high road and make that decision.

    I know you feel beat up emotionally by everything that happens. I would avoid your parents as much as possible because, as has been posted before, they are toxic people. But, that may be easier said than done.

    I just want to give you some hugs! Take care of yourself!
    I remember it too... and I hate to see you still in that situation. You need to distance yourself from them completely. If they call and need help ..fine.. help.. then get out... as much as it hurts.. you have to come to the reality that you will never have a normal mom and dad relationship with them.

    Has your husband beat you anymore?


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    Quote Originally Posted by belle5691 View Post
    I don't because about 6 years ago, my dad --- along with my husband beat me up---while my mom cheered from the sidelines...saying hit her again, hit her again. I have no desire to be beat up again. Long story there.
    I haven't finished reading this whole thread yet, but if this is the same DH you are with now, why are you still with him? I would cut them ALL out ouf my life, and move on!
    My prayers are with you. If your parents call you again, tell them that you will not get involved with their spats, and if they can't respect that, please don't call.
    As far as your DH is concerned, unless he has changed, I would be running as far & as fast as I could.
    Last edited by mosdata1; 05-27-2008 at 04:27 PM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by dangerousfem View Post
    I remember it too... and I hate to see you still in that situation. You need to distance yourself from them completely. If they call and need help ..fine.. help.. then get out... as much as it hurts.. you have to come to the reality that you will never have a normal mom and dad relationship with them.

    Has your husband beat you anymore?
    That was the last time he ever hit me. It was also the last day of ever trying to have a normal marriage with him. Im here as a caretaker and companion now--that's it. We stayed apart about 4 days then....and when we started staying in the same house again, it was changed forever. We actually get along well now, because there are no expectations in marriage at all.

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