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    First off tell your dd Happy Birthday I dont know if this well help but my grandkids other grandma has nothing to do with them now there alll in there teens and the never ever mention the other grandma as for me they alll love me to death i always told the grand kids it was there other grandmas loss one day she well regret her actions

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    I hear this so much in families anymore. I have a friend who's DIL thinks they are ignoring their kids. My friend tries but they won't bring them over and her other son brings his daughter over since he is divorced and he needed their help babysitting her.

    Have you tried taking them over to their house? That may help. Go visit them and take your daughter. If they are always too busy to see their son and his family then you will know something is wrong.

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    Gosh I am sorry. My husband's parents are that way with our kids. But the other grandkids,they must poop gold and pee silver,she adores and always talks to my husband about them. They are originally from Maine and since we moved here 3 years ago theyve came up 4 times from SC to see family (not us) and all times they spent maybe 2 hours with my kids. They are coming up in June,with the other grandkids and my husbands 2 brothers and their wives and mom in law wants the entire family to get together for family photos. Sorry but I dont see it happening,not on my part anyway.My 14 and 16 year old say they arent because they have noticed the difference that is made. My daughter Sabrina is 10 and has autism and they make the biggest difference with her. It saddens me for them,nothing like the inlaws making your heart ache for your kids...They are coming up the last week my kids are in school,how convenient heh? Its one thing not to like me but to take it out on the kids because I am their mom is just plain assstupid!!!
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    Quote Originally Posted by janelle View Post
    I hear this so much in families anymore. I have a friend who's DIL thinks they are ignoring their kids. My friend tries but they won't bring them over and her other son brings his daughter over since he is divorced and he needed their help babysitting her.

    Have you tried taking them over to their house? That may help. Go visit them and take your daughter. If they are always too busy to see their son and his family then you will know something is wrong.


    I forgot to mention that we live right by them/the next rode over. We have a path from the back of our house to their house. It's like a 5 min walk.

    We are always going over there & they never come here just to visit. They stop by if they need to pick something up from us.

    It is pretty obvious which grandkids are favored. Iam not just saying this because I am upset. You know sometimes you can just tell by actions.

    Why would they not put pictures of our children up but have the other grandkids & even a step grandkid(not even blood related) pictures up.


    My daughters are such great kids & always well behaved there. No I dont expect them to be the favorites but at least equal.

    I just dont get it!

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    I wish I could spend time with my other grandchildren.

    I would love to be able to show them the attention that I show my youngest. they deserve to know me and I want to know them. I miss seeing them and I miss their hugs.

    I have never understood why some grandparents do not want to love/treat/see all of their grandchildren equelly.

    If i lived near I would love to be their unofficial grandma.

    Someday those grandparents is going to say to you "your children never come to see me" and you will get your chance to explain.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Adra View Post
    I wish I could spend time with my other grandchildren.

    I would love to be able to show them the attention that I show my youngest. they deserve to know me and I want to know them. I miss seeing them and I miss their hugs.

    I have never understood why some grandparents do not want to love/treat/see all of their grandchildren equelly.

    If i lived near I would love to be their unofficial grandma.

    Someday those grandparents is going to say to you "your children never come to see me" and you will get your chance to explain.


    Thank you. I think they are already realizing what's going on. Children are very smart.


    It just breaks my heart because my parents are no longer here.

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    Happy Birthday to your daughter! I'm sorry that her grandparents are like that, I just don't understand how people can be like that, especially since they live so dang close. Really now, how much time do they need to get ready and is it really going to kill them to swing by and spend even 5 minutes, even if they don't have cake, but at least stop by and wish her a happy birthday?

    My daughter's grandpa Ken is like that so I know what you're talking about. When his wife died, he stopped having anything to do with Sierra, even though he lives 7 streets over. He was running for city council and his picture was everywhere and the only time he wanted anything to do with her was when we were at some community event..then he wanted to know where she was so they could get their picture taken together. My daughter wasn't with us but I don't know that I would've let him use her for his campaigning. She asks all the time why her grandpa doesn't like her and I just tell her that it's not anything she's done, that it's her grandpa's attitude and that he's the one who is losing out on knowing such a wonderful girl. It's hard on her, especially since her grandpa won the election so she hears his name and sees his picture all over the place. Just makes no sense to me why people are like that.

    I hope your daughter enjoys her birthday

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    Can your hubby talk to them about it? It really needs to be between him and his parents. Just tell them how it makes the kids feel sad when they don't come around on special days.

    My friend's DIL had a talk with her and my friend is now inviting the kids over on Sunday. If you can clear the air it may help. Maybe not at first but when they have a chance to think it over they may try harder in the future.

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    I was going to say the same thing.. your hubby needs to have a long honest talk to them about it


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    They did stop by for a few mins & gave her a card w/money.

    Grammy is taking her out to lunch & shopping on Monday with her B-day money.

    That's great but I just wish they would put more effort into my kids like they do the others.

    Thanks for all the advice.

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