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    I am sorry they are treating your kids different. Been there and done that,but it was with my Mother. Mother always made a difference between the grandkids, and my kids knew it. Now that my kids are grown, they have little to do with her, I think she knows why. I know your kids know that a difference is made, and it is so hard to deal with. Good luck, and maybe what others have said is what is needed, send your husband to have a talk with them. Sure wish they knew what they were missing. Hope your DD has a wonderful Birthday.
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    i don't want to sound out of place. but my son has this girl and she got herself preg ( she planned it) to keep him but anyway she has told me that i will never see the baby as i don't know how to take care of the baby, she has fought with my son and we don't understand why he is this way. but what i am saying is that there are always 2 sides i really think this is terrible and i do know how you feel, we have 4 children and 4 grandkids that adore us and we have taken care of them from day one but this last one i am not sure of. On this one its not the grama but the mother of the child. It is sad as we are getting elder and would love to have this one like the other ones we have and when they decide it will be too late. Hope everything will turn out maybe she'll read all these notes and figure it out.

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    Quote Originally Posted by knightowl View Post
    i don't want to sound out of place. but my son has this girl and she got herself preg ( she planned it) to keep him but anyway she has told me that i will never see the baby as i don't know how to take care of the baby, she has fought with my son and we don't understand why he is this way. but what i am saying is that there are always 2 sides i really think this is terrible and i do know how you feel, we have 4 children and 4 grandkids that adore us and we have taken care of them from day one but this last one i am not sure of. On this one its not the grama but the mother of the child. It is sad as we are getting elder and would love to have this one like the other ones we have and when they decide it will be too late. Hope everything will turn out maybe she'll read all these notes and figure it out.
    Are you saying it's because of me?

    Yes, I have always felt that Mom-in-law wasn't crazy about me but that is no fault of mine. I have always been very nice to her. I think she thought it wouldn't work out with hubby & I in the beginning but we have been together 17 yrs unlike her other childrens marriages.

    Even if she had a problem with me it shouldn't be taken out on the kids.

    If a grandparent does that then they are pretty ****ty IMO!

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    Yeap there are always 2 sides. But like Pepsi said,there is no reason to take it out on innocent children. My mother in law would look at my kids and say to them,"My goodness you look too much like your mom's side of the family." She is a wench,I wont mince words about her. Her side is the side you get when you dont wipe your arse after going number 2.
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    Happy Birthday to your daughter from me also.
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    What they don't realize is they're hurting their son; He sees whats happening and its got to hurt him. And if they don't quit he'll never be the same with them. I wish parents would think about what they do before they do it. I'm sorry for the way they're treating ya'll Its sad when they do that. I hope your daughter enjoyed her birthday anyway.

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    Me and my sisters were the grand kids my father's parents ignored.. It hurt and a couple of us are still bitter even they are both dead now.. It's not something you can just 'get over'..

    Sorry they treat her like that.. it sux..
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    My husbands parents have always shown favortism to his sisters kids.
    My daughter has been in the hospital and they haven't called in the past.

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    My in laws are like that sort of. They dont favor any of the kids though. They just dont have anything to do with them all. We had family pics made for mothers day and had them framed. She got them out of the bag and then put them back in. I wanted to give her an 8x10 of my kids school pics. In the spring we have there pics took together at school cause I know the photographer but anyway, my mil gave it back and said she didnt have room for it.
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    Ya know with some mean grandparents it may be for the best for the kids not to see them very much. Bad mouthing the mother would be reason for me to keep the kids away.

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    pretty sad about your daughters

    no i am not blaming you because i have also tried with this girlfriend of my sons and it isn't working she pretents and lies to me on things i guess they think we are stupid. I guess the only thing you can do is have your hubby talk to his parents sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't but at least you tried and there is really nothing to do I hope she comes around for all of your sakes what would she do if heaven forbid if something happened to your children and she would have no way of saying she was sorry; Our prayers are with you.

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