I need advice!

[stachowiak]

Hello Everyone!

I have not been on the computer in a long time.

I need to vent!

I am single again and dating so sucks!

Recently I went out on a series of dates with what appeared to be the perfect man. He even went to church with me twice. My problem is I think this man is a compulsive lair. What makes me think this is his story is constantly changing! I don't know what to believe anymore! I want to trust him but, my gut is iffy on the subject! I hate to think ill of him and be wrong. Once he said he was leaving town on business and gave me a flight number that did not exist as I checked on it. I called his house and his sister answered and hollered his name and then the line went dead. He emailed me a few hours later telling me his sister had called him and told him I had called and gave me some guilt trip about calling while I knew he was out of town and my knowing his sister was ill. He then questioned my being able to trust like a normal human being as I have trust issues so I gave him the benefit of the doubt. Well, then we were supposed to go pick up his new car and he made excuse after excuse. I finally went to the dealership and asked if they had a special order car to deliver that week and the salesmen said no. He then did not call me for a week so I emailed him and told him I did not want to see him anymore because his story was constantly changing and he had kept me waiting which I thought was very rude! Well today low and behold I get this email from him.

"I WOULD SAY THAT YOU MADE A "VERY-WRONG-DECISION"; BUT--------ON THE OTHER HAND, IM GLAD THAT I GOT TO SEE THAT SIDE OF YOU, "NOW"---- AND NOT 3 YEARS FROM NOW. I HAVE ALWAYS BEEN, AND WILL ALWAYS BE, A VERY "PRIVATE-PERSON"!!! I HAVE ALWAYS BEEN THE TYPE OF PERSON, WHO CHANGES HIS MIND, AND HIS "GAME-PLAN", IN "MID-STREAM". YOU, TAKE THIS AS "ME NOT KEEPING MY STORIES STRAIGHT", WHEN ALL THAT REALLY WENT ON IS, I CHANGED MY MIND, WITHOUT "CHECKING WITH YOU, FIRST". SOMETHING THAT I HAVE BEEN DOING FOR "50yrs." ANYHOW------I DO NOT HAVE ANY IDEA, IF THIS FRIENDSHIP CAN BE SAVED. I,VE BEEN GONE FOR 3 DAYS, AND GOT HOME LATE LAST NIGHT, AND ONLY THEN, STARTED THINKING ABOUT ALL THIS. SO--------- IM HERE, AND IM WONDERING ABOUT IT ALL!!!!! "

Please tell me it is not my imagination and he is trying to turn this on me again!

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[ahippiechic]

Run.

[okie]

Run.

I agree, don't even respond to him.

[hblueeyes]

Man are you ever lucky. Count your blessings, he is not one of them. You just do not change your mind about a business trip. He is a liar.

Me

[Tasha405]

I agree with them!! Run and don't even look back!

[Jackie_Blu]

Run.

ITA too! He is definitely a liar and yes he is trying to turn it onto you. I would burn rubber getting away from that jerk. (and rip off the rear view mirror as I did)

[gmyers]

I wonder if that was indeed his sister or a girlfriend or wife that answered when you called. Maybe thats why he was so upset. But I personally wouldn't want to be with someone that lied to me while we're just dating. What will he do when you're married. I wouldn't trust him but thats just me. And I wouldn't let him turn it around on you either. You have every right to doubt him if his stories keep changing.

[hotwheelstx]

My mother was a very private person...didn't tell anyone her business. I and my brother were "taught" young not to ask anything about it. However, if she ever did talk about her personal life away from us.....the story never changed.

I hope you're getting my point. I would not walk, skip.........RUN.

[Juli67]

run runnnnnnnnnnnnnn and keep running

[ilovecats]

Run!!!

[Juli67]

I'm like you I have big trust issues