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Thats fine. I understand some people couldnt do that. I only have a problem when someone says "I would never do that and I dont think ANYONE should" then I have a problem.....Quote:
Originally Posted by sea-shell
With my story I am saying SEE this is why I need that option. Someome is out there right now with my exact story and they're going to choose a different option! THATS FINE! Good for them!! Im just saying that its not OK for me and I dont need someone taking MY option away.
This is a subject that is very debatable. Obviously not everyone is going to agree.
IMO - I don't see how people can have an abortion - my children are my life.
I got pregnant when I was 35 - and in the middle of a divorce ( the baby was not my husbands ) and already had 2 children.
Was it what i had in mind - Hell no - but the thought of getting rid of him never entered my mind.
I'm glad we live in a country where we do have a choice in the things we do - I don't want to argue with people as this is just my opinion.
Hey PepperPot, you have a PM....
There is one huge element everyone is forgetting when they say just put the child up for adoption... Those nine months the mother has to carry the child and care for the child. There are times when that just isn't the easiest thing to do. I'm adopted - I'm happy my birth mom chose to carry me for nine months and I have always believed she loved me unconditionally to be able to give me up to let me have a better life. On the other hand, my brother's birth mom experimented with drugs before finding out she was pregnant. When she found out she quit using drugs, but the damage was done. He is 20 now with the mental abilities of a nine year old. Because she did stop using and took care of herself he hasn't suffered the physical effects and he is much better off than many children born after being exposed to drugs. If a pregnant woman makes the decision that she isn't prepared to be the perfect incubator for nine months why should the child have a lifetime of suffering? As long as the fetus relies on her as the host to survive it is part of her body and should be her choice. It isn't an easy choice, but it is one between her, the father and her god - not her and you - not her and the government.
On another note - animal abortion typically isn't called that... It is called sterilization. If you know the animal is already pregnant you can have her spayed, they remove the uterus therefore also performing an abortion. There are times you bring your animal in to be spayed, the surgery is started and then they realize the animal is pregnant, but not to the stage of showing yet. Simply, the animal overpopulation problem will not be solved with more animal abortions. It will be solved by people spaying and neutering their animals. There is no need for Fluffy to have kittens or Fifi to have puppies - there are quite enough of those in the world.
Ok I have read through the all the posts and I have a question. I have read so many posts about how "immature" and "irresponsible" people are that have sex, end up pregnant and choose to have an abortion. That includes people that WERE on birth control and people that DID have their tubes tied or the man got fixed. How are they "irresponsible"? They did everything humanly possible but yet they still ended up pregnant.
Also, what about people that can't get pregnant on their own, go to fertility clinics and end up pregnant with 4, 5 or 6 and choose selective reduction. Why aren't the "pro-life" people bashing all of those parents? It's the same procedure that all of these "irresponsible" women are making.
Just for the record, I'm pro-choice. Always have been, always will be. I'm not about to condemn anyone for their choices..... I'm not walking in their shoes.
Instead of getting so fired up about people having abortions, why not go after the ones that choose to go ahead and have the baby and then bag it up and throw it out with the trash. Go after the ones that give birth, then go on to abuse, starve and torture their child as it grows up. Go after the ones that molest their children, lock them in cages and eventually kill them!!!!!!!!
Those are the ones you should be concentrating on!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I think those people who abuse are being concentrated on. We hear of them being arrested and thrown into jail. I also thought abortion was going to take care of these women throwing their babies into the trash but it seems more cases are happening each day. ?????
Science is at the lead on making people take another look at abortion, not religion. They can now go into the womb and see just how developed the fetus is. How it can react to outside stimuli. We see the fetus is so human even at the earliest development. It has all it's fingers and toes.
I hope science can someday transfer the fetus to another woman so that woman can have the baby. My husband and I did try fertility treatments but stopped at the gift program where they implant embryos since they want to do reductions and we are not for that. So many thousands of frozen embryos are going to be destroyed we didn't want to have anything to do with the program. This is why I hope doctors can someday just implant the fetus.
For those couples who use birth control and do everything not to get pregnant but end up pregnant, I personally feel it is something special.
That baby really wants to be born.
Also, if one does a study of who gets abortions I bet a big majority of teens are in the number. I think everyone knows teens should not be having sex but in our sex saturated culture how can we stop them?
We have porn everywhere and sex talk everywhere. Why are we a culture so fixated on sex? I guess it is big money but if we refuse to pay for all the movies, books and such it will decrease and we can get back to a more balanced life where sex is not the center of everything.
Teens will get the chance to be children first and not have to become little adults making adult decisions of life or death for the children the are bringing into the world. That is an adult decision so let them become adults before they need to make such decisions, not encourage them to go out and have fun. Giving them condoms as a sort of pat on the back to go do it. I wouldn't want to be a teen now. I know this will be jumped on since the pandora's box has been opened and we can't get it closed again. Parents have a harder job now than my parents did.
Beautiful Janelle. I don't always agree with you but I am right with you on this one.
I am fully aware of the abuse of children after birth...I am a foster parent. No matter what these children "may" have to endure at the hands of their parents I will never agree they should have been aborted. I have 3 beautiful girls right now that I love dearly. I wouldn't have them nor would they ever have the chance to become young women.
These kids came from meth labs, had mothers who prostituted and drug abused, had men molest them etc etc but they still deserved the chance to be born.
I also believe that no matter what protection was used if you become pregnant, it was meant to be. My neice has 2 children, youngest is 8. She NEVER wanted anymore children but to her initial dismay she did become preganant. She has accepted the fact that God must have had other plans and that this indeed a special baby.
I know there will always be those who disagree and for those I say a special prayer also that someday you might see.
Bring those people on here and have them admit that they beat the crap out of their kids, ignore them and treat them like dirt and say that because they came from their bodies that it is thier choice to treat them like this and yes I'll crawl thier asses. Bring it on!
I am adopted, I thank God and my parents ( both sets ) every day because without them , I would not be here today. I have 3 other siblings that are adopted, 2 are chemical dependant because of their birth mother getting high and drinking while pregnant. My adopted parents were in their 60's and 70's when they adopted us, they had huge loving hearts and wanted their house to be filled w/ children. They wanted to save us from the evil we had already been through. There are people that would in a heartbeat take "unwanted" children, of all ages...I was the oldest, & 7 years old.
I dont care how you put it , or analize it ....there is a huge difference in animals and human life.
I so admire foster and adoptive parents. We did the training to become foster but I just do not feel up to the job. Maybe when my hubby retires and can help me. My BIL and his wife have taken care of so many children and they have four of their own but they always find more room to help others.
Keep up your wonderful work DBackFan and all those who do it. Huggs.
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Originally Posted by ahippiechic
AMEN SISTA!!
this is a never ending topic no one wil ever agree and the ppl who think KILLING (yes killing) because thats what it is whan a baby is aborted wobnt care one way or another,,,,, its the ppl who lose abby when they are young or cant have babies that care......lost one at 6mths and was told i could NEVER have more well guess wat my son is 8 now and guess god meant for me to have him