Thread: Just a little vent

Okay so here it goes. I don't do this very much, but I gotta get it off my chest, and this seemed like the best place. I divorced my husband of 1 year about a year ago. We had been together for 9 years prior to our marriage, we had 3 kids together, and we are still pretty good friends. I have moved on in my life, and I have a boyfriend who I've been with since about 2 months after the divorce. Someone I've known for years. Here's the deal, I'm pregnant with my new boyfriend. It isn't a horrible thing, We are so excited, I mean I already have 3 kids and he has 1 from his previous marriage, but we were on birth control so it was obviously meant to be. I couldn't be more excited in all honesty. The problem is I'm terrified to tell my ex, I don't want him to find out from the kids, but I'm scared he won't take it well. The other thing is my parents. They love my ex, and still invite him to all family functions and stuff, they are totally against the decision I made to leave him, and don't support me. My Mom works for the same company as me, so she bound to find out. UGH!!! I feel as scared as I was when I get pregnant with my son at 17 LOL. They were so supportive then, but I don't know I'll get the same support this time, as they didn't support my divorce at all. His family is thrilled.
Thanks for listening.

[QUOTE=Momtothree;95608873]The other thing is my parents. They love my ex, and still invite him to all family functions and stuff, they are totally against the decision I made to leave him, and don't support me. I feel as scared as I was when I get pregnant with my son at 17 LOL. They were so supportive then, but I don't know I'll get the same support this time, as they didn't support my divorce at all.[QUOTE]

Um, I thought blood was thicker than water, and if your ex has visits with your kids, what is the reason your parents invite him to things when you're divorced from the guy??? Even if you don't hate him, you got divorced for a reason.

Originally Posted by Momtothree

I divorced my husband of 1 year about a year ago. We had been together for 9 years prior to our marriage, we had 3 kids together, and we are still pretty good friends. I have moved on in my life, and I have a boyfriend who I've been with since about 2 months after the divorce. The problem is I'm terrified to tell my ex, I don't want him to find out from the kids, but I'm scared he won't take it well. The other thing is my parents. They love my ex, and still invite him to all family functions and stuff, they are totally against the decision I made to leave him, and don't support me. My Mom works for the same company as me, so she bound to find out. UGH!!! I feel as scared as I was when I get pregnant with my son at 17 LOL. They were so supportive then, but I don't know I'll get the same support this time, as they didn't support my divorce at all. His family is thrilled.
Thanks for listening.

First, you are an adult with your own life. Your family will simply have to deal with the fact that you are pregnant again. When you tell them - don't do it like you are looking for their approval. Also, just tell your ex. Once again, you don't need his approval - let him know that you are telling him as a courtesy.
Next, don't begrudge the fact that your family still loves your ex. This is a good thing. He is still the father of their grandchildren. If they want to incude him in family functions I think this is healthy. When my oldest brother got a divorce, I told his now ex that she & my bro were getting a divorce. We would still have our relationship - she wasn't divorcing the entire family. My bro has remarried, and I love his new wife but his 1st wife & I still have a close relationship & we introduce each other as SIL's. This close relationship doesn't negate the realtionship & the love I have for his new wife.
Anyway, good luck & enjoy the new addition to your life.