Thread: Personal Vent (Holiday Blues)

Okay I need to get this out because I am going to explode.

My husband walked out last dec. because his mistress turned up pregnant and he had an obligation to her so he says. Guess he forgot the obligation to me and our kids. Not the issue though. That’s done and over and I have healed as much as possible since.

We went to domestics, I settled with him didn’t take the full amount, but I have struggled since. Because I couldn’t afford daycare and work. I was ending up with 20 bucks after everything was said and paid. It took me forever to re-file but I finally did, only to have him have his mistress run out and file for child support to try and lower my child support and alimony. He lies about living with her (She lives in one of our old homes we lived in) Its in his parents name because he didn’t want an ex-fiancé prior to our relationship trying to claim against it. I sold my house when we got married. He claims to live with his parents. Its all lies. I am slowly proving it, but cant afford a private detective to prove it. Anyways today is our PFA hearing, the 3rd one. I am a nervous wreck. I am tired of all this. The man I once was married to has changed so drastically it makes me sick. He has caused so much heartache in my life and just continues to try and keep hurting me. I don’t understand it because he caused all that happened.

Now I am trying to protect my daughter from things going on over at his house because he would rather hurt her to get to me then do right by her. Its costing me a small fortune fighting this out in court with money I do not have. I had quit my job when we got married to take care of his son. We had a his, hers, ours family. So now he gets to go on with his new life, debt free and I have all the debt. When he walked out he walked out with all the money. He always controlled it when we were married too. I had no clue how far the bills (in my name) where not paid until he left.

On top of this I have his mistress calling me derogatory names that truly where reserved for her not me, I did not lay down with a married man and get pregnant. Trust me I know it takes two to tango but the harassment I have dealt with since Dec. is just appalling. Then to have her say she will be my daughters mother. Sigh.. Okay thanks for letting me vent..