Thread: My son and his controlling girl friend.

As some of you know my oldest son is almost 16. He finally has his first real girl friend who is a year younger than him. I want/wanted to be happy for him but ever since he has started this relationship, he has turned into a totally different kid.

We have had so many discussions about the limit of phone time, the amount of evenings they need to be together ect. All I get in return is " You don't want me to be happy", "You don't care about my feelings", and my personal favorite is "You are giving me emotional scars".

DS has always been a straight A student, but ever since girls have came into the picture his grades started to slip, another battle.

If I try to take a privalege away from him, his girlfriend will keep coaching him on ways to argue with me (she will not take no for an answer). I finally caught onto that when we were having a discussion, and he was wearing his headest to his cordless phone, and he kept listening to what she had to say , and repeat it back to me. I told him to hang up and we would finish our discussion which he wouldn't do, so we pulled the phione line out of his room. We told him he needs to shows us he will be responsible before it will be reinstalled.

When his girl friend calls here, she will not leave a message on the answering machine, she will just keep calling and calling and calling until he picks up the phone. Even some of his friends have told him that her behavior isn't right. But he doesn't believe anyone.


He started to improve and brought his grades up to all A's and two B's, which was a struggle but all the disscussions paid off. He was able to go to his Military Ball (which I told him he couldn't go if he didn't get his grades up), and was voted Sophmore Prince, top cadet, and also promoted. It was a good night for him and us.


And to top things off, yesterday after I picked him up at school, I told him he can't talk on the phone until his home work is done and his room was clean. Well his girl friend kept calling and calling until he picked up the phone. I told him to get off and finish his homework, and since he chose to break the rule he lost the phone for the rest of the evening. He was not happy but he didn't argue (which shocked me). I figured he would try to sneak on the phone after I went to bed, so I took the phone in my bedroom. Well the little sneak took my cell phone and called the girl. I didn't realize until after he left for school this morning. He use to be a sweet kids, I want my old son back.

Oh well, no need to reply, I just needed to get all this off my chest.