Thread: My son and his controlling girl friend.

Well, best of luck I just shared my age 16 memories so you will know you rson is normal, all y friends were like he is now..just a faze..try to not stress hormones in boys that age are relentless. That too shall pass..hang on mama hang on!! You will laugh at all this one day!

If I were you I'd be a third wheel. The way it seems I'd say they might be intimate already and birth control won't help. Your son seems to be too emotionally involved. I'd say dont pick her up. Don't let her stay with you after school. She has a home and that's where she can spend her time.
My children will not date and I mean will not until they are 18 years. Call me a prude but I really think that at 15, 16 and 17 they are not ready for any relationships. They cannot keep up their grades and have a girl/boy friend. I would of gone off on that girl already.
She would not change my rules in my house and she would not be manipulating my son.
Dang woman you have will power.

Originally posted by CABANN
I really don't agree with you about me being against her. I have never said a bad word about her to my son and I also have gone out of my way to pick her up at school, when my son had gotten out early. Even today I will be picking her up at school and bringing her here until her mom gets off work, and my son stayed home today because he is not feeling well. My main problem is on how she won't give him his own space. I have heard from some of my sons friends that if he doesn't show up on time at there meeting place at school, she will ignore him the rest of the day. Then the whole afternoon until evening she will keep calling and calling. They are too young to become this close in such a short period of time.


It is very important that he keeps his grades up above a 3.5 because he is going to boys state nest year. They have already excepted him but if his grades drop below a 3.5 he will lose his spot. Boys State is a program from the American Legion, and looks great on his education file. He wants to go to college right out of high school, and the schools he picked, we couldn't afford to send him to. So he need to get scholorships, which is something Boys State and ROTC will do. He has worked so hard up till this point, and I would sure hate for him to miss out.

Hey if you think I'm wrong, that's cool. Just keep in mind if I see it this way, they might too. Just something to think about. I hope your son does the right thing too as it sounds like he has a very promising future. Good luck-

I am definately in your corner here. You have to take charge or that kid is going to ruin his life if it doesn't tone down a bit. The fact that she is telling him how to argue and basically disrespect his mother, is an indication of poor parenting of her, IMO. Obviously her parents allow her to run their house.


1. Block her phone number. Allow him to call her ONE time at a certain time of the day for an alotted amount of time. They see each other at school, so no need to spend hours on the phone during the week. On the weekends, relax it some.

2. Change your phone number if you have to. Or get Distinctive Ring so you know when it is her.

3. Password protect your cell phone. Remind your son that stealing is a crime and that he will face consequences of not seeing ANYONE if he steals your property again.

4. Talk to her parents. I am betting they are not aware of how serious this is getting. If they do, they just don't care and isn't that sad?

5. Do not back down. Your son needs to concentrate on his education more. YOU are the parent. Your word is law. When he is 18 and is on his own, paying his own way, he can do as he wants. While he is dependent on you, he has no right to treat you as he is doing, nor do you have to allow him to even see her. The only thing, legally, that you HAVE to do is provide shelter, food, and education and clothing. Cell phones are not part of that.

Originally posted by momfromTN
I am definately in your corner here. You have to take charge or that kid is going to ruin his life if it doesn't tone down a bit. The fact that she is telling him how to argue and basically disrespect his mother, is an indication of poor parenting of her, IMO. Obviously her parents allow her to run their house.


1. Block her phone number. Allow him to call her ONE time at a certain time of the day for an alotted amount of time. They see each other at school, so no need to spend hours on the phone during the week. On the weekends, relax it some.

2. Change your phone number if you have to. Or get Distinctive Ring so you know when it is her.

3. Password protect your cell phone. Remind your son that stealing is a crime and that he will face consequences of not seeing ANYONE if he steals your property again.

4. Talk to her parents. I am betting they are not aware of how serious this is getting. If they do, they just don't care and isn't that sad?

5. Do not back down. Your son needs to concentrate on his education more. YOU are the parent. Your word is law. When he is 18 and is on his own, paying his own way, he can do as he wants. While he is dependent on you, he has no right to treat you as he is doing, nor do you have to allow him to even see her. The only thing, legally, that you HAVE to do is provide shelter, food, and education and clothing. Cell phones are not part of that.

I HAVE TO AGREE

Thanks Davesbabydoll. I know I sound hard-nosed, but you CAN meter discipline with love. I am my children's mother, and teacher, not their pal.

My dd's first "real" bf was nice, but a player. They started talking about getting married as soon as she turned 18. She was 16 and he was 17 at the time. I just let them talk and pointed out pretty wedding dress styles, talked about who for bridesmaids, etc whenever she wanted to talk. We let her talk to him as much as possible and he came over a lot. I knew if I forbid it, she would be more apt to do so asap. Shock, Shock, they split up. She told me later that if I had said no, she would have kept on seeing him longer.

As for the latest one.....?????