Thread: need advice on son who is kinda whimpy

I know whimpy isnt a good word maybe puney is better but heres the story
My son is 11. He has always been a super sensitive person and some times that is great but now that he is growing up in age it is causing problems. 3 weeks ago a 2nd grader hit him in the nose. He just sat there and took it. So we had to long talk and he always gets angry and cries. In any sports he isnt aggressive or assertive enough to even look age comparible to the others. He is in basketball right now and has improved slightly from last year but even this one lil boy that is half his size and has always been shy is more aggressive than him. My son cries at anything. Even in front of kids. We have tried to talk calmly to him. He gets frustrated and mad and wont even listen to us. Last night was the last straw. He had a game and played the first quarter. It was torture to watch him. He would just stand in front of his guy trying to block him and the kid would outrun and out maneuver him. When they threw the ball his way he just kind of stood there. (and no it isnt the coaches fault they work with him). So naturally he sat on the bench the better part of the game. He was like this in Baseball and flag football also. He loves sports and I even suggested to him that maybe he isnt the right person for sports. He got mad and stomped off. We try to work (practice) with him but step dad isnt the best in this area. My son cries if kids call him names etc. Being sensitive can be a good thing but for a boy it seems it is tough. We have tried so hard to "toughen" him up saying life has many trying times but he just doesnt even try or listen. He even got so mad last night and was crying he said "mom I am so mad I could kill myself" I was shocked and bluntly told him I never want to hear that again. I dont know what to do. I suggested counceling but says all the kids will make fun of him. I told him they wont know if you dont tell them. OHHHHHH what do I do. I love this child with my heart and soul. He is my only child. But he has to grow up