Ugh...life sucks

[Rocket Cowgirl]

Never mind I should have know everyone on here is all for the idea marriages are all holy and sacred. Well I don't believe that, call me a spoiled brat if you want but yes I want my happiness. If I think I know whats best for me then thats what I'll do. I didn't come hear for a lecture on the sanctity of marriages. To me a maggieage is just a piece of friggin paper. Love is a whole different thing. So I am offically killing this thread.

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[Kyla Kym]

You won't like my opinion, but I think you need to leave him alone.

You said he barely will talk to you. He has a wife and kids. He married her for a reason. So I'm sure he loves her, even if they are having problems.

After 20 years of marriage I know you have your up's and downs. Sometimes you think you hate their guts, but then a month later your wondering how on earth you could ever live without them.

You said your married also. I say you work on your marriage rather than wondering how you can rekindle a old flame that has a family now.

[Sweetberries]

Kyla Kym
I agree

[Rocket Cowgirl]

[Kyla Kym]

It still doesn't make it right.

Way to many people take marriage to lightly nowadays. It's meant to be a life long union. You are suppose to become as one. Don't go and destroy what someone else has. It doesn't matter what his family thinks of her. That doesn't give you the right to cause them more problems.

And if she is as big a b*tch as you say she is, then she will more than likely make your life a living nightmare if you do cause them to get a divorce so you can be with him.

Also keep in mind that you will NEVER be completely rid of her. She will be a HUGE part of your life because they share a child.

Not to mention part of his income will be going to HER for child support. So that means if you end up marring him then part of your household income will be her's until the children are adults and you are a old lady.

If I was you I would stay far away from him as I could. There are plenty of single guys out there without all the baggage.

[lilbugger]

Im gonna have to agree with the other two. If it was way back in 95 and a year later you found out that he didnt have a girlfriend, why not try to go after him then? Before both of you ended up in and a unhappy marriage.

[Rocket Cowgirl]

[belle5691]

I hope all this works out the way that makes you happiest.

[cinnamonch]

Some things you need to consider.

1) Who is telling you he is unhappy with his wife? Are you reading more into what is being said just because you want him?

2)If this guy never talks or opens up, how in the world do you know what he feels for you?

3)If you decide to persue this situation and he breaks up, be prepared to be sued by the wife. If its determined that you are the reason they broke up, she can go after you for alienation of affection and it will cost you big time. Is he really worth that much?


IMO, you sound like a spoiled brat who doesnt care who gets hurt as long as you get your way. But remember, what goes around, comes around and its worse when it happens to you.

[wall flower]

I agree with the others...let it go...you say you need him if for nuthin else a freind...who are you kiddin...yourself only...I am not belittling you or coming down on you....but it would never work because you would slowly but surely want more....I know...I HAVE been through it...I know it's hard sunshine but hang in there....smile.....

[belle5691]

I USED to be one of those who thought marriage was all holy and sacred. But sometimes life has a way of changing your opinions. Now I think you have to make your own happiness and go into any situation with your eyes wide open.