Anyone else facing a class reunion?

**momfromTN** · 05-01-2003, 01:55 PM

I am going to a class reunion next weekend. I am over 100 lbs overweight, (I wasn't in HS) and frankly, I am scared of the shock some might have at seeing me. I know that is terribly vain, and I have started weight watchers, but it will take over a year to lose what I want to lose. I was thinking of a black dress, and nice makeup and just going and have fun and to heck with it, but I just am ashamed of how I look. Silly, I know.

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**momfromTN** · 05-01-2003, 02:07 PM

And no, I was not a snotty person who made fun of people either. Just a regular student.

**lpelham** · 05-01-2003, 02:12 PM

momfromTN,

Don't be ashamed to go! I hated both of my reunions, but for different reasons. I wasn't real outgoing in high school and have changed so much since then that the few friends I had were weirded out by me now :-) But, if you had alot of friends - go! If they really care about you, they won't care if you gained 500 lbs or have purple hair!

Libby

**momfromTN** · 05-01-2003, 02:14 PM

Ture, I know it is silly.

**wubbywa** · 05-01-2003, 02:15 PM

I have my 20th in Sept. I have no desire to go and listen to I have this I have that stuff. I was popular in high school but I look back and think politics, politics. It starts in school. Classmates has the reunion listed and who has RSVP to come or not and I am surprised at who is actually going. Some of them I would love to see but I dont even know where to start after 20 years.

**harlow** · 05-01-2003, 02:23 PM

My 10 year was last summer - I was never popular so I kind of had it stuck in my mind I was only going to see how fat the b*#$%es got - but once I got there it didn't even dawn on me to see people and their weight - it was actually nice just to talk to people I had not seen in 10 years. Just go there with confidence and that will make you look your best!

**lpelham** · 05-01-2003, 02:25 PM

Originally posted by wubbywa
I have my 20th in Sept. I have no desire to go and listen to I have this I have that stuff. I was popular in high school but I look back and think politics, politics. It starts in school. Classmates has the reunion listed and who has RSVP to come or not and I am surprised at who is actually going. Some of them I would love to see but I dont even know where to start after 20 years.

I had some strange desire to go to the 10th, which turned out okay. Then when the 20th came up, I didn't want to go, then my best friend - the one that has remained my only friend from high school decided he wanted to go. I honestly had nightmares before going. It's just I wasn't in the "in" crowd, and the few memories I have, no one else seemed to remember. It was like paying $85 to hang out in a room full of strangers.

I have vowed not to go again - I have great friends that I met since high school that mean SO much to me, why bother with the people who didn't care then and care even less now? It just saddens me that I have that whole four years of time that I have memories of and no one else does and I have no one to share them with really (except Steve, mentioned above).

Libby

**momfromTN** · 05-01-2003, 02:31 PM

Ya'll have helped me a lot. I am being silly. Who cares? I will bet I am not the only one who has gained weight. I am sure there will be a LOT more wrinkles, saddle bags and bald heads than I think. I was not an "in crowd" person either. This was a performing arts school and I attended for 2 yrs. I did not graduate from there, but they want anyone who attended the first 10 yrs of the school's exsistence. That would include me. I have a lot of good memories from there. Heck! I am going to pack my new dress, and go!

**denisemm** · 05-01-2003, 04:36 PM

I totally know where you are coming from! My 10 year reunion is in October. I was chubby and un-popular in HS, then after I lost weight & was so proud. Well, I have put all that weight plus some back on. I have been busting my butt, because I have to loose 35 pounds by october. If I don't I won't go. So, are you being silly, maybe, but so am I, LOL! I think its just a part of human nature. In reality, I'll probably go anyway, but I am going to do everything I can to loose this 35 pounds first.

May we both have fun, and not stress about appearances.

**belcherpi** · 05-01-2003, 04:47 PM

My 20th is coming up in July and I'm not going. The people in the clicks back then still live there and still hang together. I have no intention of driving 8 hours to see people who act as though they don't want to talk to me when I go in for visits. I feel that if I was that good of friends with them then I would have kept in touch with them all these years.

**Xica** · 05-01-2003, 05:16 PM

It's not silly at all. Like harlow said, she wanted to go to see how fat the mean girls got. LOL BUT she also said that once she got there, it wasn't even on her mind.

Here's a Dr. Phil-ism: "You wouldn't worry so much about how people think about you, if you knew how seldom they did."

I think it makes sense. Sometimes we're so busy worrying about ourselves that it doesn't dawn on us that maybe others don't even think about us like that.

just go and have fun! To hell with what anyone thinks.

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