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    14 Things You Can Learn at a Wedding

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    It's that time of year when people dress in strange costumes and perform curious rituals without necessarily knowing why.

    No, my friends, it's not Halloween. It's wedding season.

    More people get married in June than in any other month. This isn't just because the weather is generally nice, although that would make the most sense to me. Actually, June spells weddings for several reasons.

    To name a few: Some authorities believe June is named for Juno, the Roman goddess of marriage. Roses--the flower of love--bloom in June. And finally, old superstitions would recommend it. (Marry in the month of May, and you'll surely rue the day. Marry when June roses grow, over land and sea you'll go. There's a saying for each month.)

    Mostly, though, I think people get married in June because everyone else does. The timing has the crowd's seal of approval, which is reassuring when you're spending an average of $19,000 (in the United States) on a wedding ceremony and trappings.

    And that's kind of the problem with weddings. They suffer from too much sameness, from too much mindless adherence to tradition. Yes, it's nice to see love in bloom with the roses--especially when you're close to the bride and groom. But how many times can you see a long white dress, veil, tuxedo, cake, bouquet, and army of bridesmaids and groomsmen without feeling like you're having a bad case of déjà vu?


    Don't couples deserve more than a McWedding with cheese? And don't guests deserve a more scintillating show? Of course they do. So, using my patented Internet Magic Formula, I have come up with a solution to both problems.


    Here goes: The more you know about wedding customs, the easier it is to pick and choose the ones that mean the most, thereby giving you a unique ceremony. Likewise, the more you know, the more amused you will be during the ceremonies you sit through as a guest.


    Evil spirits and bridesmaids' dresses

    The typical North American wedding is just bursting with meaningful traditions--if you know where to look. Take bridesmaids' dresses. They're not just evil looking; they're evil-repellent.

    If you've ever wondered why bridesmaids all dress the same, it's because Roman law required ten witnesses to make a wedding legal. Several of these witnesses dressed up exactly like the bride and groom, to confound any malevolent forces who might show up uninvited. Europeans followed a similar tradition, and later bridesmaids and groomsmen sometimes did have to defend the happy couple against real-life thugs and warriors (see Lefty loosey, righty ... bridey? below).

    This does not explain why bridesmaids' dresses are almost always ugly, though. My Internet Magic only goes so far.



    Ring around the ...

    If you've ever wondered why Americans put the wedding ring on the third finger of the left hand, it's because of an ancient Greek belief that a vein in this finger ran directly to the heart. And if you've ever groaned at having to buy both an engagement ring and a wedding ring, you can blame Pope Innocent III, who instituted a waiting period between engagement and marriage in the 13th century and also insisted that a ring be used in the wedding ceremony. Before that, rings were used to seal an engagement only (as well as other important agreements).


    You may exchange souls with the bride

    Yes, this is what the big wedding kiss symbolizes--the swapping of souls between the bride and groom. Even earlier than this Christian belief, the Romans used a kiss to seal a contract. The kiss was considered legally binding. I don't know about you, but I'm glad that a handshake suffices today.

    What's more, a bride marrying in the Church of England had to kiss the minister before she smooched the groom. I would really love to go to a wedding where the minister said, "Now, I may kiss the bride."


    Where's the toast?

    We call it a "toast" when we drink to someone because of an old French custom in which a piece of bread was put in the bottom of the wine cup--for flavor.

    Yuck!

    Partygoers would drink and pass the cup; when it reached the person being toasted, he would drain it--crouton and all. It sounds pretty unhygienic. But think of how much more excitement a crunchy beverage would bring to the traditional wedding toast. I'd drink to that.


    Toss me a garter

    Many things are thrown through the air at weddings: rice (for fertility), bouquets (for luck and protection), and garters (also for luck). The garter is my favorite.

    Apparently, in the good old days, before wedding dresses cost as much as small cars, people used to rip off chunks of the dress for good luck. The garter was like some lizards' tails: something that could be shucked off in self-defense.

    In long-ago England, in a slightly related custom, friends of the groom would rip off their socks and throw them; the first to hit the groom's nose would be the next to be married.


    Lefty loosey, righty ... bridey?

    No, lefty loosey, righty tighty is for screws. Traditionally, the bride stands on the left, the groom on the right. (Although the Jewish wedding tradition reverses this.) Weddings used to be a lot more like the ones you watch on daytime TV, with dastardly ex-suitors and other thugs sometimes rushing the altar. And of course, some wedding crashers were heroes, just trying to rescue a captured bride. Whatever the reason for the interference, the groom needed to keep his right hand free so he could grab his sword, thus the bride stood clear and to the left. I have no idea what happened when the groom was left-handed.
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    Some religious traditions explained

    Probably the most familiar religious wedding traditions to Americans are the Roman Catholic and Protestant ones. The lighting of the unity candle--where two symbolic flames become one--is a particularly familiar image. This is a really nice tradition. But I can say from experience that it is stressful bending over an open flame when you're wearing a veil.


    So what about other religious traditions? Here are some examples.


    Hindu

    In some Hindu wedding ceremonies, the groom is responsible for the bride's clothing. But instead of the familiar white lampshade-style gown, Hindu brides wear a sari. When the bride arrives at the ceremony, she wears clothing from her parents; when all is done, she is dressed in clothing her husband has provided.


    Islamic

    It's an old Islamic custom, not often practiced today, to paint the hands of the bride and groom with henna the night before the wedding. Not only does this look beautiful, but it also helps the bride and groom get to know each other. There are a few traditions here. One is that a dark hand design (called menhdi, by the way) signified the couple would have a strong bond. And if the groom couldn't find his name written into the design on the bride's hand, it was believed that the bride would wear the proverbial pants in the relationship.


    Jewish

    At my Jewish-Roman Catholic wedding (officiated by a Jewish professor and a Jesuit priest), my husband followed the Jewish tradition of stomping on a glass wrapped in cloth. This symbolizes the destruction of the Holy Temple in Jerusalem, among other hardships endured by the Jewish people. Destroying a glass during an otherwise happy ceremony also symbolizes the mix of joy and sorrow in life. Adam didn't stomp on a real glass, though. He used a light bulb, which popped very nicely and didn't cost anywhere near as much.




    Around the world in five traditions

    And now, for wedding traditions from around the world that you may not have seen ...

    Korea

    Two Korean wedding traditions involve birds that mate for life: ducks and geese.

    Korean grooms used to travel to the homes of their brides on the back of a white pony, bearing a goose, which symbolizes fidelity. Nowadays, they use symbolic wooden geese. In another tradition, a pair of wooden ducks, one symbolizing the bride and the other the groom, can indicate whether couples are happy or at odds. After the wedding each spouse places one of the ducks somewhere in their house. If the ducks face nose to nose, the couple is getting along. If they are tail to tail, the couple is believed to be fighting.


    Scotland

    While the Swedes make the walk down the aisle more uncomfortable for the bride, who often wears coins in each shoe, the Scottish have a tradition that sounds a lot more pleasant--at least for the bride. The night before the wedding, everyone gathers 'round to wash her feet. The point of this, in case you're wondering, is not to create a home spa feeling. Rather, it symbolizes sending the couple off on a fresh path together.


    Africa

    In some parts of Africa, a man asks permission to marry a woman, and if the family agrees, he presents her with a little money and a kola nut. The bride opens the nut, shares it with the groom, and sends a piece via messenger to other families to announce the engagement. After the wedding ceremony, guests shower the couple with corn kernels, symbolizing fertility.


    Vikings

    In Viking times weddings were a little bit like an auction, only everyone had to pay. The groom approached the bride's father or guardian and made an offer for her. The groom's family paid this "bride price," and the bride's family coughed up a dowry, thus establishing a nest egg. During the ceremony, the money was handed over, and a banquet would follow.

    The Vikings' modern-day descendants are more likely to tuck money in the bride's shoe so that she'll never do without--silver in the left (from dad), and gold in the right (from mom). Another Swedish tradition is that the bride's shoes remain unfastened, to symbolize easy childbirth in the future.


    Cajun culture

    It's a Cajun tradition for older unmarried brothers and sisters of the bride or groom to dance with a broom at the wedding reception--thus mocking their single status.

    Older siblings also take center stage--if you can call it that--in a tradition called the Hog's Trough Dance. For good luck, the siblings have to dance in an empty hog's trough until it breaks.

    I'm not entirely sure where this tradition started. Some sources say Pennsylvania; others say it's something done in the Appalachians or Balkans. I say that wherever it started, it's pretty darned funny, assuming you're not the person two-stepping in the trough.

    And how many times in your life do you get a chance to get revenge for all those times big brother and sister bossed you around?
    Laissez les bon temps rouler! Going to church doesn't make you a Christian any more than standing in a garage makes you a car.** a 4 day work week & sex slaves ~ I say Tyt for PRESIDENT! Not to be taken internally, literally or seriously ....Suki ebaynni IS THAT BETTER ?

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