Why Me? Why Us? Why Now? *Long*

[Tasha405]

I don't even know where to start but I need to get things off my chest. I am so stressed right now. This whole year has been crazy for us. Here's a list of some of things we have been through since the beginning of this year..

Hubby lost his job
a week later we find out we are gonna have baby #3 (we are happy but remeber he just lost his job)
Hubby had a death in the family
Our car was stolen (but we found it later, thank God!)
Hubby's Grandpa is real sick and in and out of the hospital (he's in there now, tomorrow will make 2 months)
My Grandma was sick
We had to file Bankruptcy
Still can't afford the bills so we have to cut out all the little extras
I've had complications with the pregnancy
The kids were sick off and on for about 2 months
Still can't afford the bills and they keep raising the bankruptcy payment
My cousin tried to kill himself
They have raised the bankruptcy payment again. Its went from $240.00 to $419.00 and we still have another company fighting wanting more money. So the payment will raise yet again.

This is all really getting to me. We've had other things going on as well but I just can't think of everything. I'd probably have to make 4 or 5 seperate threads for it all. We went and talked to our lawyer yesterday about the payment being so high. We simply can't afford it. Yes its a lot cheaper than it all was before but we can't afford it with our only income being hubby's unemployment. We are trying to raise 2 kids on it now with one on the way. There is just no way. So the lawyer tells us that there is nothing he can do, we need to give up some of our belongings to make the payment lower. Ok, so we can give up our car, living room furniture, tv, dvd player, hubby's gun and my computer. If we give up everything but the car, we save close to $80. Thats it. We will be sitting on the floor just to save $80 a month and still wouldn't be able to afford the payment. We have no other way to get any other furniture and no family around to help us. We can give up the car and keep the furniture but then we won't have any income. If we don't have a car hubby can't get to school and so the unemployment would be cut out. I just don't know what we are gonna do. Its like we are screwed any way we go. Here we have 2 kids, a baby due in 8 weeks and we are losing everything we have. I feel like I'm being punished for something but I don't know what I've done wrong. Just when I try to have something in life, it gets taken away. My mom has helped when she could but there is only so much she can do. I don't expect anyone to pay our bills, I would never even ask someone to do that. I just couldn't. I can't get a job because I wouldn't be able to afford daycare for 3 kids and I don't even know how to drive. I just don't know what we are gonna do.

I'm sorry to just keep going on and on. I'm just so aggrevated. I finally lost it last night and cried for hours.

Thanks for reading. No need to reply. I just needed to vent.

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[jaimethepooh]

((tasha))
it may seem hade to belive now but things will get better.
hang in there.

[tiffany21]

oh sweetie things will get better. have you tried to appy for county assistance they might be able to help you. hugs

[socks1211]

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[Willow]

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[jcw]

I am so sorry for all your troubles. Hang in there. Things will work out.

[Lisa03]

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[aimefisher]

Have you tried WIC and FOODSTAMPS? Plus if you are still paying on your furniture give it up for now and go to the thrift shops with what you were paying for the furniture for a month and get some stuff you won't have to make payments on.

[suzziq03]

{{{{{{{{{{{{{Tasha405}}}}}}}}}}}} I really wish I could do something to help you out. I do hope things look up for you soon, prayers headding your way.

[1busymomma]

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I've been there, it's not easy at the time but hang in there! It will get better. When a door slams shut, a window opens (even if it is just a crack)

Your in my thoughts and prayers today.

[Iluvbears]

Awwwee, I'm sorry you are going through a rough time. Honestly things do get better. You may have a long road to travel before things look up. You got to keep trying, if you don't try to get out of the mess you are in you'll remain in the situation. I know you are trying, just don't give up.

Are there any jobs in your area? If you DH can apply for jobs (even jobs he wouldn't normally apply for) like fast food, resturants, news paper, construction, lawn care or anything. If he applies for a job, just don't fill out the application, call the place a couple days later. So, they know you really want to work. I don't know if working is an option for your DH seeing he's going to school.

To get extra cash, you can pawn things, pick up cans, copper and thing that a recycling center will give you cash for, & sell things.

I know how it is to be in your situation, I lost everything for the exception of the clothes on my back. It's hard, life is not one bit fair most of the time. You gotta do what you gotta do inorder to survive in this cruel world.

Anyway, Hopefully things will start to loo up for you soon. {{{Hugs to you}}}