I do not know what to do with DD?? It is getting worse by the day!!

I do not know what to do my 7 year old DD is being so awful to my 18 month old DS. She has punched him , kicked him, pushed him, threw him on the floor, and last night to top it all of she spit on him. She has stupid reasons for doing it, like he was in this or he done that, or he wouldn't come over here so I spit on him. She is so mean at times at at others she loves him to death. I know there is such a thing as sibling rivalry but this has gone to far. We are talking a big kid and a baby. My son doesn't talk so he can not tell me when she does stuff to him. I do not know what to do. We have grounded her, taken away her stuff, made her stay home from activiteies, we ahve even spanked her bottom. She has been put in a chair , stood in the corner and givin chores to do for punishment. But none of it works. Please any advice would be of great help!! This is not a step brother or half brother this is a full blood brother. (We just had trouble getting him sooner.) She is not a behavior problem anywhere else. I mean yes she is mouthy to some people but that is a stage, I know most kids go through. She seems to be trying to get some extra attention but the attention she is getting is the bad kind. We take her all kinds of places, skating , amusement parks, swimming, we go out to eat alot and when we go shopping seldom do we not get my kids something. I am so fed up with this whole thing I just do not know what to do. I do not want her to be like this, I want back the wonderful little girl I had before this summer started. The one that loved her brother and wasn't so mean.

Any advice is appreciated. Thanks for listening to my whining, I am just a the end of my rope and do not know what to hang on to next.:)

I don't have any suggestions, except a couselor maybe, lol. Just wanted to say hang in there & HUGS! :)

I hope my son doesn't do this when our baby is born!

Maybe it's time for some mother/daughter time away from the baby. Giving her the attention. Keep in mind that she was an only child and the center of attention for a long time. Now, people look at the baby first before they look at her. And she's been out of school all summer and out of her routine. Time for school to start over again so that she has some other attention besides mom and dad at home.

Take her out for a day with her alone. That might help. Then be sure once she starts school that when she comes home she is your first priority then the baby. It will give her the assurance that she needs that she is not being overlooked because of the baby.

She's wanting to be the only child again and this baby is getting in her way. Time to make some changes so that she doesn't feel left out all of the time.

Unfortunately I don't have any advise and have been going thru the same thing - since my middle child was born 5 years ago - my sweet loving 7 y/o daughter who makes everyone in the family believe she's an angel (except those who live with her) is a hidden monster! We've tried everything (even the mommy/daughter time), even when we go to familys house make her continue to be in time-out or not get to play outside with the other kids and stuff like that. And all it's doing is make everyone say to me "Stop being so hard on her she's a kid." She makes me look like the bad one when she's the one destroying everything she can get her hands on at home and beating the crap out of her siblings. I for one can't wait until school starts back so she'll calm down a little bit again. THANK GOOD FOR GETTING UP EARLY AND HAVING HOMEWORK WHEN THEY GET HOME!

Now, IF, your daughter continues to act like that after starts and has ANY problems in school with behavior I'd have her tested for ADD or ADHD, there might be an actual problem. Mine does great in school so the teachers say there's nothing wrong with her.

Hope things get better for you!!! (((HUGS)))

I have to agree with Schsa. Do a little "Mommy and me" day without the baby.

I have a 12, 11, and (almost) 2 year old. The reason for the big gap between the middle and last is divorce and remarry. I don't have any problems with the two older ones with the youngest, but the two older ones fight constantly.

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I have to agree with Schsa. Do a little "Mommy and me" day without the baby.

I have a 12, 11, and (almost) 2 year old. The reason for the big gap between the middle and last is divorce and remarry. I don't have any problems with the two older ones with the youngest, but the two older ones fight constantly.

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I agree as well - sounds more like she is getting antsy with summer winding down, and school gearing up. Hope everything works out!

I have my son in counceling and he had thar problem also. it is helping some. hope this helps