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    When " Kill them with kindness doesnt work?"

    when you have a family member that you have tried for years to just have a relationship with and they do everything possible to make it difficult, what do you do then?

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    Thankfully I have never had that problem. But I am going to assume that I would just stop having anything to do with them.

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    Tell her it's YOUR house, and if she can't treat you with respect, then she can leave.

    She's old enough to start acting like an adult. You don't have to like someone to treat them with the same respect that you want others to treat you with.

    Damn (insert football team name here, lol) fans!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by 3lilpigs View Post
    Tell her it's YOUR house, and if she can't treat you with respect, then she can leave.

    She's old enough to start acting like an adult. You don't have to like someone to treat them with the same respect that you want others to treat you with.

    Damn (insert football team name here, lol) fans!!
    that's the problem he wont say crap to her for fear she will get mad...It has been 18 friggin years something needs to be done...

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    Then you're gonna have to go off the deep end, on both of them. lol

    If it were me, I'd stop going to their house.

    I'd go away with some friends, when she comes to visit. I wouldn't sit home and be miserable in my own home.

    And I'd keep doing it that way UNTIL he does say something to her.

    I doubt very much that you're disrespectful to any of them when you go to their house. I'd expect the same in mine.

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    but I look at it as if I leave MY HOME then she has won and got exactly as she wanted. So I put on a smile and just suck it up. I will not let her think she has won!

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    Quote Originally Posted by sunflowers View Post
    but I look at it as if I leave MY HOME then she has won and got exactly as she wanted.
    Not if you go out and have more fun than you would at home.
    Who cares if she thinks she won. If that's how she wants to live her life, then let her. Pretty sad though.

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    I would retire to my room with a cup of hot tea and a good book ... ignore them and refuse to feed the drama
    Laissez les bon temps rouler! Going to church doesn't make you a Christian any more than standing in a garage makes you a car.** a 4 day work week & sex slaves ~ I say Tyt for PRESIDENT! Not to be taken internally, literally or seriously ....Suki ebaynni IS THAT BETTER ?

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    Ok I am guessing a post must have been edited or deleted?

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    Quote Originally Posted by SLance68 View Post
    Ok I am guessing a post must have been edited or deleted?
    Nope...nothing deleted or edited in this thread. Why??

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    Quote Originally Posted by 3lilpigs View Post
    Nope...nothing deleted or edited in this thread. Why??
    Reading just the first 4 posts it appears a lot of stuff must have been deleted/edited to get from "when you have a family member that you have tried for years to just have a relationship with and they do everything possible to make it difficult, what do you do then?"

    To your reply: Tell her it's YOUR house, and if she can't treat you with respect, then she can leave.

    She's old enough to start acting like an adult. You don't have to like someone to treat them with the same respect that you want others to treat you with.

    Damn (insert football team name here, lol) fans!!

    I just can't figure how you had that info such as it was a female and her age that was not mentioned in the above 2 posts.

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