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Oh...I did want to add that they are pretty good with the toys and the only things that get broken are those things that would break through normal use. It's the non-toy items that are getting broken. For example, one of the twins saw a 'ball' candle and went straight toward it and promptly threw it across the room...even though I was yelling "Sawyer...NO!!!"
Now, I suppose I should have put it up...but with the 5 grandchildren before the twins...I only put up those things which were 'irreplaceable' if broken. Otherwise, I worked with them to leave things alone. I suppose that's why I have so many toys so that they will leave non-toy items alone. Even with my own children, I never believed in putting away those things which I didn't want them to touch. I just was consistent with my "No, don't touch."
Now that the twins are here...it's like all rules are now forgotten.
But I think my concern is also for the future. If these children don't get disciplined now...what's going to happen when they are teenagers?
Never argue with an idiot. It will bring you down to his level and he’ll win because of experience.
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05-10-2012 12:02 PM
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It is the rules, limits & standards you set for them when they are 2 that carry through 12 to 22 to 32 & so on.
I never spanked either of my sons nor did I have to scream at them although I will admit to raising the volume at bit during those teen years. My boys will always say they knew they were in trouble by the look in my eyes. My kids knew from an early age that my NO meant NO. This is not a democracy. I am/was their dictator. My home neer had to be baby proofed.
Insanity is hereditary. You get it from your kids.
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[QUOTE=Kelsey1224;96348170] My son is the music pastor at our church and our DIL is the assistant dean of curriculum at a Christian school I think that both parents are overwhelmed and want to make their time with the kids as stress-free as possible. But, I think that kids need structure... They are deliberately naughty but that is typical of 2 year-old's. [QUOTE]
Nothing typical of 2 year olds, its what you let them get away with, and yes they need structure. AS for their professions. I bet they are NOT asked to visit, unless they get the kids a sitter. NO ONE WANTS THAT BEHAVIOR.
I enjoy restaurants that DO NOT ALLOW CHILDREN! They are #1 for my place to dine.
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The kids need discipline and rules. I couldn't tolerate it 
Good luck discussing it with your son-I know it will be a touchy subject.
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Nothing the parents can do now, but do you think they don't discipline because they are overwhelmed ? Meaning all those kids and such young ages ? Just a thought.
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I think you have very reasonable wishes and I would sit son and dil down to explain to them that their children need to respect your home. I wish my kids had you for a grandmother.
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Like others have said..This is your home and YOU make the rules for it...No reason you can not follow up with Time Out at your home.
Personally I think I would call a meeting of the adults...Both your DD and SIL and your DS and DIL and your hubby too... By calling everyone together at the same time, same room, same conversation..NO ONE can say your playing favs with one set of grand kids...Get it all out...set some rules for your home and your expectations for behavior while in your home...I am sure you didn't raise your kids to behave like some of the grand kids are behaving..So your kids know what is right and what is wrong...
Kids need structure..they need discipline...they need rules to follow and also need to learn to accept the consequences when they don't...Will they try you..Heck Ya...BUT you be the bigger person and stand firm with your rules..As these children grow they will come to understand why you had rules at your place..They will understand that rules were not because you were mean...BUT because you love them and worry they will get hurt...Having a grandbaby get hurt because of foolishness is the worst thing that can happen.
I also think it is okay for the rules at your place be different from that rules in their own home, also...I the mom allows to child to wander at meal time--that is her problem..but at your home it is okay to expect the child to sit at the table--ask to be excused-- and it you do not allow extras in-between meals that is the way it is... You have your concerns and they are valid..so stick to it..
I can also see you and the DD & DS coming together on some rules...If they have a set bedtime--abide by it when they kids are with you..same for teeth brushing and such...You are setting the tone now for life long lessons...I know they are little--but a little ground work now will go miles as they grow...
Nip it in the bud now grandma....before it gets anymore out of control... You are the matriarch of the family... Sometimes Life is not Fair..but it IS the way it Is....
Let my haters be my motivators!
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No you are not being old foggy
Tell the kid parents of they can't
Stop the kids from jumping on your furniture
That they won't be staying there for a while
That's just me
I'm not a grand mom but I know I would have kittens if
My grand kitty's where jumping on my stuff 
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DONT FORGET WHERE EVER YOU ARE YOUR THERE.
OR ARE YOU?
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