Thread: I have question I hope some here can answer

I have a friend she is a very nice person
But she really smell like how do I put this
A cross between fish and onion
How do I tell her with out sounding like a witch

Thanks

Tough question...there is no way to tell someone nicely. I had to tell my mom and stepdad that if they were bathing regularly, then they obviously weren't using deoderant.

You might start out, "This is really hard for me, but I care enough about you to tell you the truth. I don't know if you are bathing regularly, but you have a strong body odor. It might be from the food you cook, or perhaps your clothes need to be laundered between wearings. And, if you aren't wearing deoderant, perhaps you should. I hope you know I'm not trying to hurt you."

And then...shut up and see what she says.

I have a friend who doesn't smoke herself but her husband smokes big time and their house stinks. Both she and her hubby stink to high heaven, but I love them and for me to mention it wouldn't change anything so I keep my mouth shut. After I come home from a visit with them, I strip down to my undies and put everything in the hamper because they smell so bad. I happen to know these are clean folks so it's the smoking and how it's gotten into everything in their home. I can even smell the stink outside the home.

I think if it would be beneficial and if she can change the way she smells and if she wouldn't be royally p*ssed and/or hurt, I'd mention it in the sweetest of words and the sweetest of tones of voice. It all depends on your relationship with her. But if you don't think it would change anything, I say grin and bear it.

Thank you all for the good advice
My dd said to me that my friend stinks
Like a whore house at low tide
LMBO why do kids have to be so blunt lol

Originally Posted by angelkitty

Thank you all for the good advice
My dd said to me that my friend stinks
Like a whore house at low tide
LMBO why do kids have to be so blunt lol

I've never heard this phrase and honestly don't even know what it means...except that someone smells badly, obviously. I hope your 'dd' is a grown-up because I wouldn't understand why a little girl would know this phrase either...LOL.

Originally Posted by gmyers

Christmas is a good time for perfume, bubble baths, lotions and bath oils that have a nice smell. Thats how I'd handle it. That or just ignore it. Thats a hard situation to be in.

I was thinking the same exact thing. Buy her some bath sets and deodorant for Christmas.

If it were you, would you want to know? I would hope that my friends would tell me if I smelled or if my house smelled. Yes, I would be embarrassed but I would be more embarrassed if they let me go out in public like that.

I am lucky to have people in my life that we can be honest and blunt with each other and not worry about hurt feelings.