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    Is this too mean?

    I have a daughter who never answers her phone. When I had a heart attack 4 yrs ago , my sister had to drive 30 miles to tell her. I am so sick of trying to reach her when I can't.

    I want to get a message to her that her father has had a stroke , or that I've had another heart attack. or that her brother or sister have been hurt in an accident. No none of this has happened. But if it did we couldn't reach her. I want to do it just to be mean. Is this too mean?
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    Yes, I wouldn't do that....however tempting it may be.

    Have you ever spoken with her about this?

    Do you know any of her neighbors? Do a reverse address lookup, call her neighbor and ask her to please go across the street and have your daughter call you as she's not answering her phone. When you daughter gets annoyed, tell her you will do this again, even in a "non-emergency" is she refuses to answer the phone. Tell her to grow up and answer her damn phone or you will bother all her neighbors and she will be embarrassed.
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    Sondra you are not being mean & your justification is rational. Your daughter is being selfish.

    Many moons ago when I was 16 my Mom & Dad were both hospitalized and in ICU. My 2 brothers were somewhere in the Washington DC area. No one had a phone num,ber for either of them nor an address for either of them. Try handling the care of 2 critically ill parents by yourself when you are 16.

    Is this the daughter than had storm damage?
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    Yup, that is too mean. Ever hear of the Boy Who Cried Wolf., same thing.
    If you don't like the fact that you can't get ahold of her, write her a dang letter and let her know how you feel (and don't be passive aggressive, just say, "I don't like it that I can't get ahold of you) ., if she doesn't reply to what you have to say then so be it. You raised her, she's an adult and is making her own decisions.
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    I don't think that would be the right thing to do. If she doesn't have a answering machine maybe buy her one. Then you can at least leave a message if there is an emergency.

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    OOPS...wait a second...I mis-read what you posted. My brain went to you wanting to heap a bunch of whoop arse on her butt.

    Trying to contact her to tell her something bad has happened that really didn't is a very wrong thing to do. Don't tempt the karma GODS. Let her know you aren't pleased that she doesn't pick-up her dang phone but don't fake an emergency to get her attention. remember the boy who called wolves too many times???
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    yes that is mean. how would you feel if she did that to you? I hate answering my phone too and so do a lot of other people. Sounds like you have an anger problem.
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    I absolutely understand the frustration you are feeling...but doing something like this is horribly mean. I agree with dv8girl on this. Write her a letter and explain what is bothering you. Don't be combative, but definitely be assertive.

    If you don't hear from her, then you need to decide how you will proceed. But NEVER say anything bad has happened to a family member that isn't true.
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    Does she have a valid reason for answering her phone...or she just chooses not to?..

    Maybe you two could work out a code system..If it is a true emergency you could call and let it ring like three times -hang up and call right back..So she would know to pick it up.

    Sorry she is being so difficult, over something so petty
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    Quote Originally Posted by Taterbo View Post
    Does she have a valid reason for answering her phone...or she just chooses not to?..

    Maybe you two could work out a code system..If it is a true emergency you could call and let it ring like three times -hang up and call right back..So she would know to pick it up.

    Sorry she is being so difficult, over something so petty
    My mother had this system with her sisters & friends (long before caller ID), she/they'd ring once and then dial again so they knew who was calling.
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    I guess your daughter is related to my Mom & her family. Try to get one of them to answer a phone or call when something actually happens is impossible. Honestly I get more family info on Facebook than I can from her side of the family directly.

    IF something does happen and you need to contact her you can call her local police/sheriff's office and they will go out and do a contact for you. I had to do this with my brother when he was on vacation several years ago when his mother in law was hospitalized and they did not expect her to make it through the night (SIL got there and was able to visit with her Mom for a couple of hours before she passed). So just because you "can't reach her" doesn't mean she cannot be reached.

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