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    Affairs and cheaters

    I don't have a very high opinion of men when it comes to cheating. I think most of them will do it. And before those of you who are convinced your husband won't , don't attack me, I accept there are some who don't/won't.

    But there is one thought we forget, for every man who cheats, there is a woman cheating with him.
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    Quote Originally Posted by buglebe View Post
    I don't have a very high opinion of men when it comes to cheating. I think most of them will do it. And before those of you who are convinced your husband won't , don't attack me, I accept there are some who don't/won't.

    But there is one thought we forget, for every man who cheats, there is a woman cheating with him.
    You'd actually be surprised to see how many married (men & women) people cheat. Most of them do it during work hours to avoid getting caught & a lot of them deny being married when asked.

    I believe people should exit the relationship/marriage before seeking a person on the side.

    No, I am not married, never have been, I have met a lot of married men who claimed to be single.
    Don't worry about what people think. They don't do it very often.

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    I've never understood why people just don't get married in the first place. Then they are free to date or sleep with as many people as they want without hurting someone else. Not that it doesn't hurt if you find out your boyfriend or girlfriend is cheating on you too. I just believe you should stop all that once you marry.

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    I agree Gmyers. The excuse used most often is: "I'm staying for the kids.... My wife and I are more like roommates than husband & wife."
    Don't worry about what people think. They don't do it very often.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bliss View Post
    I agree Gmyers. The excuse used most often is: "I'm staying for the kids.... My wife and I are more like roommates than husband & wife."
    I've heard that one before and I had no interest in having an affair with him. I agree with Bliss and gmyers that you should leave the marriage or relationship you are in before you start another one. I believe in monogamy.

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    I have been on the stinky end of that stick- xh cheated on me when he was still the h with several women and almost all of them knew he was married with kids. Didn't you know that everyone cheats and it's not his problem that I didn't like it? LOL... that was the end (or really close to it). I absolutely agree that there are bad apples on both sides. Not happy in marriage- talk about it and move on if you need too. Way easier said than done, but sheesh... NO CHEATERS! :-)

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    i have to say that i have been on both sides, i have been the cheater and also the one cheated on. BUT... those were years ago, when i was young and naive, and also never in a marriage. and yes i TOTALLY agree with all of you, if you want to be with someone else, GET OUT of the relationship you are in first! its only fair. if you have ANY morals at all, you wouldnt even THINK about being with anyone else, or even kiss anyone else until you were not in a relationship.

    My marriage is based on trust, it HAS to be. My husband travels every week (a pilot) all over the country and to islands, etc... i KNOW he would never cheat on me, thats why i married him. it has taken me many years to develop a relationship that i KNEW was forever. when we started dating i KNEW it was him forever and that i would NEVER cheat on him either.

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    When people cheat, do you ever think of the aftermath of the psychological effect of your partner. I never been cheated on, but my husband has. The relationship before ours, he was cheated on constantly, and I have to face the jealousy, the insecure feeling he has. The first year was rough, mentally for me it was not healthy. I love him and was infatuated with him, so I stuck it out. It took a while to gain his trust, but I did and we're happily married for 7 years, almost 8. Our relationship is stronger than ever and we never had the desire to cheat on each other, and I give him my complete trust. He has yet to lose any of my trust.

    Cheating is a big sin, and I hate it when I see someone go through it. I really don't get a wo/man who knows their partner is in a relationship and is married, and still wants to have sex with him/her. How can you do that, knowing he has a family. What makes you think you're the special one and you won't be cheated on. Once a person cheats, there's a good chance they'll do it again.

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    A lot of the people who cheat aren't seeking a relationship just a FWB.

    Most will not tell a person they are married because they know they'll be kicked to the curb quick. So, in order to "try" and accomplish what they are set out to do, they lie, lie, and lie. Once I found out a guy was married, (It doesn't take long to figure it out) I walked away.

    There is another thing..women don't only need to worry about their husbands with other women, they also go after other men. These are so -called straight men wanting to know how it is w/a man.... Anyone can go to any site and see it for themselves.
    Don't worry about what people think. They don't do it very often.

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