This is very nosy on my part.

**buglebe** · 12-22-2010, 12:33 PM

I knew my friend didn't have much money and lived on a tight budget. But I want to know more and I don't know how to find out. She qualifies for $16 month in food stamps. Is that enough information for someone to tell me approximately what her monthly or yearly income is or would you have to know a lot more information? How can I anonousmously give her money on a monthly bases?

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**VALENA-)45** · 12-22-2010, 12:55 PM

ask her, and then offer the support you want to give her on the down low. if she won't tell you or says no thank you, leave the money in her purse or somewhere else she'll find it. or take some food over to her house and leave it on the door step. good luck.

**gmyers** · 12-22-2010, 01:53 PM

Thats what someone used to do for my sister. She'd find rolled up change or money in a chair under her carport and had no way to tell who gave it. She never did find out who it was. Or bags of stuff because she had a lot of garage sales to make bill money.

**buglebe** · 12-22-2010, 02:48 PM

She has too much pride . To tell me what she did I had to pry it out of her. She always says let's change the subject. Yes I could try putting money in her purse. Thank you for that idea.

**Faithfully** · 12-22-2010, 03:08 PM

I would send what ever you felt comfortable with in sending anonomously to her in the mail?

**prcsanglas** · 12-22-2010, 03:21 PM

My thought was a prepay card and reload it every month. Send gift cards in the mail. If not home slide the envelope under her door with cash in it.

**Kelsey1224** · 12-22-2010, 05:11 PM

I don't think it is any of your business how much she has or doesn't have. She is obviously in need and embarrassed by it. That you want to help is very sweet and generous of you. The suggestions already given are good ones. You can sneak her the money without her knowing and without you knowing any details about her personal finances. One isn't dependent on the other. Bless you for wanting to help her.

**SLance68** · 12-22-2010, 05:19 PM

You are very sweet to want to help your friend. Just please DO NOT mail cash. I really like the idea of slipping it in a envelope under her door - that way it is anonymous and she will not know if it was you doing it. Leaving it in her purse she will probably catch on fast as to who is leaving her money.

***DAVESBABYDOLL*** · 12-23-2010, 05:44 AM

You can also mail her a gift card anonymously for her to use at a grocery store in her area.

**jasmine** · 12-23-2010, 06:56 AM

yeah, you were saying that she only gets $16 a month in foodstamps, I know alot of grocery stores have gift cards that you can only use at the grocery store, that is.... if you want your money to go where it counts when you give it, and know it's going where it should be used.

Does she have kids?

**freeby4me** · 12-23-2010, 07:11 AM

Something else that may help would be something like a pre-paid phone card so she could call family long distance if she doesnt live by them.
You could always play it off like its a reward for surveys you do and you just cant really use them.

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