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Two Faced or Tactful?
I have an acquaintance, whom I work with. When you work with someone, you have to be tactful, even though you may personally can't stand this person. This person thinks they are my best-friend., and maybe its my fault for being tactful and friendly with her. It kills me even to talk to her, especially outside of work.
Now that I'm moving, she's heart-broken, I hear everyday how she doesn't know what she'll do without me, but in my mind I'm like I HATE YOU!
Is it wrong to put up this front that we're "friends" or should I tell her how I really feel.
Two-Faced or Tactful?
I guess she'll know either way, when I do move & block her from my phone.
Rudeness is the weak person's imitation of strength.
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08-25-2010 08:36 AM
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What's the point in deliberately hurting her? You know the relationship (such as it is) is going to die really soon so I'd continue the way you are. Once you move you can just be too busy for her.
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Originally Posted by
cabby92
What's the point in deliberately hurting her? You know the relationship (such as it is) is going to die really soon so I'd continue the way you are. Once you move you can just be too busy for her.
I understand that.
But is it two faced to continue to act like she's my friend.
If someone you thought you were friends with secretly hated you, would you want to know?
Rudeness is the weak person's imitation of strength.
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Originally Posted by
dv8grl
But is it two faced to continue to act like she's my friend.
Maybe she's doing the same thing to you??....just being tactful.
I say just let it go...it'll die on it's own.
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Originally Posted by
3lilpigs
Maybe she's doing the same thing to you??....just being tactful.
I say just let it go...it'll die on it's own.
I wish that were the truth. I'd be so happy if that were the truth.
This person is mentally unstable. She'd come over to my house sometimes & tell me that it was either come over & hang out with me, or she was going to kill herself.
She has no other friends but me & her boyfriend, who I don't think really gives a damn about her. Her birthday this year, all the talk was how it was going to be a huge dinner party with all her friends., when husband & I showed up at the restaurant, it was just us 4. All the friends I have here, she's latched onto as well. And they give me the WHAT THE F IS WRONG WITH HER? And I'm just like DUDE, KEEP YOUR DISTANCE!!!
Rudeness is the weak person's imitation of strength.
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Originally Posted by
dv8grl
I understand that.
But is it two faced to continue to act like she's my friend.
If someone you thought you were friends with secretly hated you, would you want to know?
I've been in situations where I did not like some of my coworkers but I was always pleasant and respectful. How did she come to believe that she was your 'best friend'?
If it were me, I wouldn't want to know that I was 'secretly hated', that would be cruel (IMO), just let the 'friendship' die with your move.
ETA: We sort of posted at the same time (mine being slower)....she's an EDP.
Mrs Pepperpot is a lady who always copes with the tricky situations that she finds herself in....
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I wouldn't deliberately hurt her. She will be none the wiser once you move and are too busy for her settling into a new place. Who knows if she is that unstable if you tell her she might come after you or do something to herself. I'd rather be safe than sorry.
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I wouldn't tell her unless she moved to where you're moving. Then I'd be worried.
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I wouldn't call it 2 faced. I would call it having a professional work ethic. Your job would be so miserable if she knew how you really felt. I wouldn't deliberately hurt her like the others said but you can use your RL ignore feature after you move 
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Your job is your job, your bread and butter. And eight times out of ten, we all hate someone we work with, BUT, we have to be "nice" in order to preserve our job. So, two-faced, no. Job security, yes.
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I wouldn't call it 2 faced. I would call it having a professional work ethic. Your job would be so miserable if she knew how you really felt. I wouldn't deliberately hurt her like the others said but you can use your RL ignore feature after you move
Your job is your job, your bread and butter. And eight times out of ten, we all hate someone we work with, BUT, we have to be "nice" in order to preserve our job. So, two-faced, no. Job security, yes.
I agree with both assessments here
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