View Poll Results: Loss of script (final), knee brace dot's fault or MOM's

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  • dot's fault.

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  • MOM's fault

    0 0%
  • Dot's resposibility

    13 48.15%
  • parents lost mind. Cater to the child

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    Last day of school for my senior, but she also is nasty

    So glad this is the last day of high school for my 18yo dot. But sick of the attitude.

    first she could find her knee brace from a knee injury...then yelled, screamed at everyone for this that and the other thing...

    So we went to help her find the brace...couldn't find it cuz...

    THE ROOM IS A PIGSTY!!!

    SO: she went to school without the brace and mom is cleaning her room.

    Then she calls us from school: She forgot her Script for a class/final. Insists it is in her room (aka=the trash heap.) No mom didn't see the script and even went through the paper recycling of 2 bags from her room this am and NO script.

    Dot feels we recycled the 48 page script and it is MOM's fault!!!

    I say no. It is dot's responsibility and not MOM's fault that the script and brace are missing.

    What do you think?
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    Sounds to me like these things are her responsibility.

    Mom cleaning her room when she's 18yo? Perhaps her possessions should be left in boxes in the yard and only a bed left in the room.
    Mrs Pepperpot is a lady who always copes with the tricky situations that she finds herself in....

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    Quote Originally Posted by pepperpot View Post
    Sounds to me like these things are her responsibility.

    Mom cleaning her room when she's 18yo? Perhaps her possessions should be left in boxes in the yard and only a bed left in the room.
    I totally agree...and I did forget to mention. Mom is charging her $25 this time. Next time we'll just pack the junk up in boxes and do as you suggest.
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    Who is going to pick-up after her or find her paperwork when she is in college?
    Question though: When did you first realize her bedroom was a pigsty? That mess would never be tolerated in my home.
    My 25 yo son is back at home after graduating from college & his room is spotless & ultra organized.
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    Well, next time she will make sure she has everything before she leaves the house huh?
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    You didn't give me the right choice on your poll. I would have voted it is the daughter's responsibility AND her fault...and her parents have obviously catered to her a wee bit too much. All of the above (except for Mom's fault) wasn't an option.

    I personally think it is time to remove the door to her room...take away any electronic devices (phone, etc.) and strip her room of everything but the bare essentials. All this until her attitude improves. Then she would earn items back.

    Or...show her the door. She is now 18...high school graduate. If she doesn't like things at home, she can move out and support herself. I'd let her know she is welcome to come home...WHEN she agrees to some ground rules.
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    You have been posting about your kids for years, pigsy rooms, attitude, etc. You allow the behavior so why complain about it?
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    Quote Originally Posted by krisharry View Post
    You have been posting about your kids for years, pigsy rooms, attitude, etc. You allow the behavior so why complain about it?
    I have kids and have the same problems.....and then some. Some of this is normal and is not necessarily 'allowed'...it's part of the child's development. Children will push the envelope and push our buttons....'allowed' doesn't apply. A certain amount of rebelliousness is normal and healthy....for the child, not the parent. For the parent it's hell.....I've been there. I cannot control every action of my child(ren) but I try my best.

    I'd like to think that I can vent my frustrations of parenthood every now and then......I think most of us here have....venting about it is better than exploding on our kids. But I'm sure you are aware of it.
    Mrs Pepperpot is a lady who always copes with the tricky situations that she finds herself in....

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    I take doors off. They have to earn them back.
    If I clean the room, I view it as if I do not use it... I do not need it: into a box in the basement!

    If they notice it gone... they can earn it back.

    And, my son was Valedictorian... yet he still had his moments...
    They all do!!
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    Quote Originally Posted by pepperpot View Post
    I have kids and have the same problems.....and then some. Some of this is normal and is not necessarily 'allowed'...it's part of the child's development. Children will push the envelope and push our buttons....'allowed' doesn't apply. A certain amount of rebelliousness is normal and healthy....for the child, not the parent. For the parent it's hell.....I've been there. I cannot control every action of my child(ren) but I try my best.

    I'd like to think that I can vent my frustrations of parenthood every now and then......I think most of us here have....venting about it is better than exploding on our kids. But I'm sure you are aware of it.
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    My kids have been cleaning their rooms since they were 1 1/2 years.
    No going to bed until room was spotless, and when they wake up, no leaving their room until bed is made.

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