Thread: Last day of school for my senior, but she also is nasty

I have always maintained that you are a parent from the time they take their first breath until you take your last.
Even though my sons are adults now, there is no way I would tolerate disrespect from my sons.
My 24 year old son is living back home with me & probably will for several years until his student loans are paid off. When he moved back home I did set-up my rules of the house. The one who pays the bills, me, sets the rules.
I think there are 2 distinct types of parenting; free range & helicopter. I was sort of the free range as long as you are under my 'copter blades type of Mom.

Boy. It must be official. I have been off this site for months and the moment I return you and your posse have to "HUNT" me down to cut me down to "size".
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This, right here, is why you get negative replies, at least I think so. You stay away from this site for months on end and as soon as you have something to biatch about, you come running over here to post about it.

Surely there is something going well in your life that you could post about.

Originally Posted by nightrider127

Boy. It must be official. I have been off this site for months and the moment I return you and your posse have to "HUNT" me down to cut me down to "size".
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This, right here, is why you get negative replies, at least I think so. You stay away from this site for months on end and as soon as you have something to biatch about, you come running over here to post about it.

Surely there is something going well in your life that you could post about.

You have a point and it pertains to us all.

Originally Posted by baragabrat

You have a point and it pertains to us all.

I totally agree. We all have some negative stuff going on in our lives. And yes, if a person wants to post about it, they should. Myself, I am a very private person and don't put private things on a public message board.
Some people are not as private as I am and it seems to help them with their problems.

We all have rainy days in our lives but the sunny days far outnumber them. If a person can come to this site and go on about all the "rain" in their life, surely they can post at least a little about the "sunny" days that are in the majority.

She was probably having some PMS as well as Senioritis, all high school seniors go through it. Such is the life of a parent of a teenager.

Wishing you all the best!

I always told mine that their room is their room but there is a limit. I also dont tolerate attitude for days on end, much less as a way of life. Seems like if things have gotten out of hand, somebody wasnt paying attention like they should have been.

I'm laughing are some of the prior comments because my kids had chores and were required to keep their rooms presentable so that if company dropped by, I wouldn't be embarrassed by the state of the house. (My mother was a complete slob with regard to the house and I never had friends over.)

Guess what? Our house was the one where all the kids hung out. They always felt welcome...but knew I had rules with regard to how things were kept. But...the refrigerator and cupboards were always full.

Today...my children and grandchildren are here all the time. We just had 3 of our grandchildren for the weekend. And they know...the first thing we do every morning is make the beds. I have tons of toys and they will definitely be scattered around while they are playing. But, everything gets put away before we leave the house or go to bed at night. It's just what we do.

So I'm a little obsessive about neatness? They all know my love for them is not tied to their being neat too. It is just a requirement of my home. We can have fun and make a BIG mess...and we do all the time. But, we also clean up the mess when we are through.

Originally Posted by Kelsey1224

. And they know...the first thing we do every morning is make the beds.

Reminds me of when I was in boot camp., having to make the bed a certain way, having to hang the towels a certain way, ironing & folding underwear a certain way....I never understood why go thru all that trouble, until I realized that it was a preparation for life. Preparing me for the real world ( military or civilian )., it teaches responsibility & attention to detail.... two traits that are rarity these days.

I do realize that my hubby and I are a little obsessive about neatness. We joke that we have a motto..."Neatness counts!". But, there is nothing like coming home from work to a tidy house...bed made, etc. Our house is not spotless. I'm not constantly dusting and vacuuming. But, the kitchen is cleaned after dinner and counters are all wiped off. Clothes are either put in the hamper or hung up. We don't leave things lying around. It is much easier to pick them up and put them away.

And, it is important to understand that this isn't how I was raised. When I said my mother was a slob...I'm being kind. I loved her very much, but she lived just this side of 'squalor'. Mopping a floor was a foreign concept to her. And I hated it growing up. I hated that I couldn't invite friends over because I was embarrassed. Things weren't just messy...they were filthy. And I could only do so much myself to clean things up. And whatever I did clean...promptly got dirty.

My husband always was a neat freak. And, while he never made it an issue, it just was nice to have everything tidy...so I became more like him.

Now that our children are married with family of their own, they aren't as tidy as we are. But, that's okay. They aren't slobs either. They do the best they can with little children running around. However, I do see them teaching their own children good habits like picking up all the toys at the end of the day, etc.

A clean and clutter-free home=clutter-free mind=peace.