Thread: saw my neighbors husband out with another woman

What I would do is mention seeing him in a very casual, passive way. Like, "Hey, I saw Bob at XYZ restaurant in XYZ town while the hubby and I were there to eat. He must have had a meeting there? He seemed to have a good rapport with the woman he had to meet there."

She probably already suspects, and by being so passive, you will not be the bad guy.

if it was me I wouldnt tell her as when my first husband was cheating on me no one told me but in my heart I already knew....and of course because of another women which he ended up leaving my daugher and myself but then I found a wonderfull man and have been married going on 28 years.

My EX cheated on me & many people knew and didn't tell me. I was really angry with them for not telling me but then I would have been angry at tem for telling me.
I would probably keep my mouth shut. He will slip-up eventually and get caught however IF you really think she needs to know send her a letter.

Now if I had caught him I would have went right up to them & said "Hi John & Jane...oh wait YOU aren't Jane" & gave him the dagger eyes and walked away. That would make him squirm a bit.

Tell on the little worm...Send her a letter a text or whatever but I would def tell her,he is using business "meetings"as an excuse to cheat on his wife. I mean why if this was a meeting would he have traveled 75 miles from home to meet this women are there no places closer to home to meet her?
Be compassionate and teel her I am here for you if you need me but I think you should know....and let her know hubby was there as well and seen it (if he did).
GOOD LUCK!

This is such a tough one. I was in this situation...and not one friend told me that my husband had hit on them. But, he starting actively pursuing a co-worker of mine. I have no idea how I suspected, but whenever he went missing, I would call her house and ask if, by chance, he was there. She always denied it...but not because of anything she was doing with him...quite frankly he wasn't her type. She didn't tell me because she had a strong loyalty to my mother who had trained her in her job when this co-worker was a single mom trying to get a new start.

Anyway...one day she told me privately that she had told my ex to leave her alone and quit dropping by her apartment. She said she told him that his attentions were unwelcome and that he was putting her in an awkward position. Even though I had thought something had been going on, I was quite frankly stunned...but it was the beginning of the end of our marriage. My husband pleaded for my forgiveness and wanted us to go through marriage counseling. However, he found someone else (while we were in therapy). When we separated for good...all my friends suddenly had a 'story' about how my ex had flirted with them.

At first I was annoyed because I wondered why I hadn't been told. But, after a while, I was glad they had waited. I ultimately found out anyway. While I may have stayed in the relationship a little longer than I should have...when the break was final, I knew it was the right thing.

So, my personal opinion is 'mind your own business'.

However, I would have done what an earlier poster suggested...I would NOT have avoided him when I saw him. I would have gone right up to him and said hi! I would have introduced myself to the 'other woman' and said that I was a friend of the wife.

And, I would have relished watching that worm squirm!!

You never know what kind of relationship married people have.
They may have an open marriage.