Thread: What did you get for Christmas?

hotwheels-- I thought you said last year you weren't going to get Aggie anything..

I didn't get anything this year because money is tight. My kids will get their Xmas next month. Every year though hubby will buy me something. He really doesn't want anything for himself, and if I do get him anything, what he really wants is " wife time" ( hint hint).
Even if he went and bought you a GC, at least that's something. You deserve better, and I would NOT get him something for his bday. If you already bought it, take it back and get YOU something with it. If he wants shirts, pants, DVD's . then he can go get them himself

I got to see my kids have a great Christmas despite all they have been through this year! It was a good day but Im super glad its over! LOL I did get a $25 gift card to JcPennys I am sure it will get spent on one of the kids tho! LOL

Originally Posted by hotwheelstx

I didn't get anything. Aggie received 2-dvd's he's been wanting, a new coffee pot, socks, 5 new shirts, 4 $50.00 gc to Border's, his favorite candies, Aggie flag to hang in his den.

Not to mention our wedding anniversary was on the 15th. Didn't get anything for that either. Aggie received a new keychain, gc to Best Buy for $50.00, new jeans.

His birthday is this month too.....he received his traditional birthday cake (yes, I made it), new mouse for computer, a photo album of the years we've been married, carton of cigarettes, a bottle of rum for his eggnog, delivery from Omaha Steaks (he loves their food).

Yes, I'm upset. I went to a lot of trouble to get everything he wanted for all the celebrations. Brother didn't come over. They spent Christmas w/dw's family.

Aunt is in Thailand visiting her son. I paid my aunt's way to Thailand as one of her gifts. She really wanted to see him. Hopefully she's having a wonderful time.

Just like last year he sees no reason for me to be upset. He says he married me and that's enough. I have jewelery and don't need anymore, Closet full of clothes.

I kept reminding him 2 weeks before Christmas it wasn't the "gift" that counted it was the thought. Guess I'm not worthy of being thought about.


I'm hoping it won't be another viasco like last year when Aggie made an attempt after Christmas to buy me something.....they were all appliances that I didn't want, wouldn't use. I made him take them all back. When he wouldn't or refused I took them back.

He also doesn't feel guilty one bit. If we'd agreed not to buy each other gifts that would of been fine but we didn't.

Still have presents under the tree for nieces and nephews who are coming on Monday. So it will be another Christmas gathering for us.

Happy New Year everybody.

Cripes, were you really expecting anything different this time?

I can't imagine being with someone like that... and my ex-dh was the world's biggest ass and he still managed to come through. John wouldn't dare not get me something... sometimes he gets me something small just for the hell of it. Of course I do the same thing.
I wouldn't deal with it... everything would be returned OR donated to the homeless shelter, etc. and I'd make him go and deliver it to them and explain why he's there.

Originally Posted by gmyers

I would sit him down and flat out ask him if he loves me. What kind of man or person can sit there and open the gifts you got him knowing you don't have any. My husband has COPD and can't walk very far but he still got out and went shopping for me. I told him not too but he was like no way are you not going to have presents. Some he bought on the computer others he used the cart you ride to shop. You need to really tell him this is the last year you're going to accept him not buying for you. If it happens again then you'll know he doesn't care anything about you. There wouldn't be a third time after that. I'd just tell him we wont do Christmas. We'll go to other peoples house and visit with family and friends but we wouldn't have one at our house anymore. Its not even about the gifts its about respect and love. You deserve to recognized for all the things you do every day for him. You deserve better than this. If ya'll are having money problems then I can understand not buying but if its just laziness or being a jerk thats something else. I'm not trying to talk about your husband but he needs a major wake up call. What would he do if something happened to you. He's taking you for granted and being really insensitive. As you can tell stuff like this really ticks me off. You're not being selfish for wanting to receive gifts for Christmas and don't let him try to make you feel bad if you say something.

Money is tight for us this year. However, I managed to save a little and get some items from Amazon w/gc's that didn't cost me anything. This happened last year too. He went out after Christmas and bought me appliances. I promptly took the first 2 back and told Aggie to take the money back and buy me something that I wanted. 3rd time he bought another appliance and I just gave up.

What gets me is that he started asking me on Thanksgiving what I wanted for our anniversary and Christmas. I made a small list. I also circled items in flyers that I knew he could afford (we have 3 checking accts. mine, his, ours). He says that Christmas is for children and I agree to a certain extent....but he didn't hesitate opening one gift for our anniversary, Christmas.

I did tell him yesterday this was the LAST Christmas I was going w/out anything just for me. He doesn't get my point. One of his suggestions for a gift for me was a new battery for my watch which my mother gave to me a few Christmas' ago. I don't consider that a gift since I already have a watch and I'm the one that keeps forgetting to get a new battery.

Even his stepmother sent him Christmas and birthday presents. I didn't get anything from her either. Not even a card. I didn't expect/want anything from her....we're not on the same fence. Last year she sent me a pretty music box. Which I did what was expected called and thanked her and sent a thank you card.

I also told Aggie that if this happens on my birthday (May) that's it I'm done. It's a selfish, rude, inconsiderate act on his part. I may not have spent a lot of money....that's not the point.

My aunt who was here for Christmas was totally in shock. I thought she was going to tear into Aggie at some point. She held her tongue and quietly asked me about it. I told her to ask Aggie herself. She did but I'm not sure what was said. I didn't ask either one of them.

He's still stewing about everything I've said and thinks I'm being unreasonable about everything. I did check his bank statement and he has plenty to have bought me a decent gift for Christmas.

At least everyone else in my house had a good Christmas. Happy New Year.

Nada
We didn't do any gifting for each other.
DS only got the video game he asked for, flannel shirt and flannel pj bottoms.

We did adopt a young family with a baby (family friend's). Baby got 2 activity toys; the rest was grocery items, a turkey and some personal neccessity items. He lost his job a while back and unemployment ran out for him.

DH brought a gift for the grandkids (DD doesn't want to see me).

"We have that already" "We have an xbox 360, get us a game!"

(NOT)

They had no problem ripping into the candies that went with the gift.
Not even a thank you. Never got any thank you's for their bday gifts in March (dh brought those to them also). DD, boyfriend and the 2 kids live with his mother.
I haven't seen the kids in almost a year.
DD doesn't take my calls, answer texts, emails or instant messages.
(sorry for the vent)

Originally Posted by hotwheelstx

I didn't get anything. Aggie received 2-dvd's he's been wanting, a new coffee pot, socks, 5 new shirts, 4 $50.00 gc to Border's, his favorite candies, Aggie flag to hang in his den.

Not to mention our wedding anniversary was on the 15th. Didn't get anything for that either. Aggie received a new keychain, gc to Best Buy for $50.00, new jeans.

His birthday is this month too.....he received his traditional birthday cake (yes, I made it), new mouse for computer, a photo album of the years we've been married, carton of cigarettes, a bottle of rum for his eggnog, delivery from Omaha Steaks (he loves their food).

Yes, I'm upset. I went to a lot of trouble to get everything he wanted for all the celebrations. Brother didn't come over. They spent Christmas w/dw's family.

Aunt is in Thailand visiting her son. I paid my aunt's way to Thailand as one of her gifts. She really wanted to see him. Hopefully she's having a wonderful time.

Just like last year he sees no reason for me to be upset. He says he married me and that's enough. I have jewelery and don't need anymore, Closet full of clothes.

I kept reminding him 2 weeks before Christmas it wasn't the "gift" that counted it was the thought. Guess I'm not worthy of being thought about.


I'm hoping it won't be another viasco like last year when Aggie made an attempt after Christmas to buy me something.....they were all appliances that I didn't want, wouldn't use. I made him take them all back. When he wouldn't or refused I took them back.

He also doesn't feel guilty one bit. If we'd agreed not to buy each other gifts that would of been fine but we didn't.

Still have presents under the tree for nieces and nephews who are coming on Monday. So it will be another Christmas gathering for us.

Happy New Year everybody.

Maybe it's about time to quit buying for him, at least accept he isn't going to do the same for you. You could use the time and money on yourself and when he says where's his stuff , say I don't know but just look at all the stuff you bought me and point at your pile of stuff and say you gave me all this and I love you for it.

I had an awesome Christmas this year. I must have been good!! I got an ipod nano and I am loving it!! My BF is also getting me tickets to a Dave Matthews Band concert and sending a friend with me, that is the bestest gift!! He hates them but I have been dying to see them for I know going on 10 years. I cant wait!! Lovelovelove me some Dave Matthews!!

Instead of getting Xmas presents for Aggie, go Xmas shopping for you, tag the gifts from Aggie to you.

Do the same for your anniversary and for his birthday, get yourself a gift and label it 'belated' to you from him.